Trauma Bond Test — Why You Can't Leave
Self-assessment: are you trapped in a traumatic bond?
Designed based on cognitive and behavioral psychology research.
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The Trauma Bond Test — Why You Can't Leave is a 30-question self-assessment (about 15 min) measuring 4 key dimensions. Self-assessment of trauma bond: cycle, inability to leave, dependency. 30 questions. After completing it you get an instant overview, then a detailed PDF report (1,99 €): scores per dimension, a radar chart and a personalized action plan. This tool is for self-knowledge and does not replace a professional consultation.
About this test
Trauma bonding is the paradoxical attachment to a person who harms us. Described by Patrick Carnes (1997) and Dutton-Painter (1981), it combines violence-reconciliation cycle (Walker 1979), intermittent reinforcement (mechanism close to addiction), inability to leave despite awareness, and progressive isolation. This 30-question test evaluates four dimensions of your current experience to help you understand WHY you stay — and identify the most relevant resources (specialized therapy, safety plan, external support). It does not evaluate your partner; it evaluates your attachment. If physical safety is threatened, contact a hotline (1-800-799-7233 US, 0808 2000 247 UK, 3919 France).
Dimensions assessed
- ●Violence-reconciliation cycle- Alternation between tension/conflict phases and intense tenderness (Walker 1979 cycle).
- ●Inability to leave despite awareness- Emotional impossibility to walk away lastingly, returns after breakup attempts.
- ●Intermittent reinforcement- Behavioral dependency on unpredictable positive moments (Skinner / Dutton-Painter 1981).
- ●Awareness-action gap- Gap between intellectual knowledge (toxic relationship) and concrete ability to act.
Your report includes
- ✓Overall score with interpretation
- ✓Analysis of each dimension
- ✓Detailed radar chart
- ✓Personalized recommendations
- ✓Resources and exercises
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See exactly what you get before paying — score, dimensions, radar chart, action plan.
PDF Report: 1,99 €
Why take this test?
Our romantic and interpersonal relationships are deeply influenced by our attachment style and relational patterns. Understanding these mechanisms helps break repetitive cycles, improve communication, and build more fulfilling connections.
The Trauma Bond Test — Why You Can't Leave specifically evaluates 4 key dimensions: Violence-reconciliation cycle, Inability to leave despite awareness, Intermittent reinforcement, Awareness-action gap. With 30 carefully crafted questions, it provides a detailed and nuanced picture of your psychological profile in this area. The test takes approximately 15 min and can be completed at your own pace, from any device.
Whether you’re seeking personal development, considering therapy, or simply curious about yourself, this test gives you concrete and actionable results to move forward with confidence.
How does it work?
Take the test
Answer the 30 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 15 min.
See your preview
Once you finish, you immediately see a preview of your overall score and profile by dimension — no registration required.
Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (4 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does the Trauma Bond Test — Why You Can't Leave measure?
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This test evaluates 4 psychological dimensions: Violence-reconciliation cycle, Inability to leave despite awareness, Intermittent reinforcement, Awareness-action gap. Each dimension is scored individually, giving you a detailed view of your profile rather than a single overall number.
How long does the Trauma Bond Test — Why You Can't Leave take?
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The test contains 30 questions and takes approximately 15 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report (8-15 pages) with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations is available for €1.99.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This test is based on established models in clinical psychology and psychometrics. It evaluates 4 dimensions (Violence-reconciliation cycle, Inability to leave despite awareness, Intermittent reinforcement...) using validated assessment scales. However, it is a self-assessment tool and does not replace a professional clinical diagnosis.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your Trauma Bond Test — Why You Can't Leave report includes: your overall score with detailed interpretation, individual analysis of each of the 4 dimensions, a radar chart visualizing your profile, personalized recommendations for improvement, practical exercises, and additional resources.
Is my data kept confidential?
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Absolutely. The test is 100% anonymous — no account creation, no email required. Your answers are stored only in your browser (localStorage) and are never sent to our servers until you purchase a report. All data is automatically deleted after 24 hours.
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About the author
Gildas Garrec · CBT Psychopractitioner
Certified practitioner in cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), author of 16 books on applied psychology and relationships. Over 900 clinical articles published across Psychologie et Sérénité.
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