Narcissistic Abuse Test: spotting the cycle of control
Assess whether your partner, parent or close one shows narcissistic-abuser patterns, and measure the hold it has over you.
Designed based on cognitive and behavioral psychology research.
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The Narcissistic Abuse Test: spotting the cycle of control is a 25-question self-assessment (about 12 min) measuring 5 key dimensions. Do you suspect narcissistic abuse? This test assesses the mechanisms (idealization-devaluation, coercive control, gaslighting, lack of empathy) and their impact on you. Instant result, PDF report, 100% anonymous. After completing it you get an instant overview, then a detailed PDF report (1,99 €): scores per dimension, a radar chart and a personalized action plan. This tool is for self-knowledge and does not replace a professional consultation.
About this test
A narcissistic abuser sets up a relationship in cycles: intense idealization at first (love bombing), then progressive devaluation that erodes the victim's self-esteem. This test does not diagnose the suspected person for you — it helps you put words on what you are living through, across five observable dimensions: the idealization/devaluation cycle, coercive control and isolation, manipulation and gaslighting, lack of empathy, and above all the impact on you. It is not a medical diagnosis but a structured benchmark to clarify your situation and decide what comes next.
Dimensions assessed
- ●Idealization / devaluation cycle- Alternation between initial over-valuation (love bombing) and progressive belittling.
- ●Coercive control & isolation- Control of who you see, monitoring, and progressive isolation from your circle.
- ●Manipulation & gaslighting- Distorting reality, reversing blame, making you doubt your own perception.
- ●Lack of empathy- Indifference to your suffering, need for admiration, exploitation without reciprocity.
- ●Impact on you- Exhaustion, self-doubt, guilt, loss of confidence, difficulty leaving.
Your report includes
- ✓Overall score with interpretation
- ✓Analysis of each dimension
- ✓Detailed radar chart
- ✓Personalized recommendations
- ✓Resources and exercises
See exactly what you get before paying — score, dimensions, radar chart, action plan.
PDF Report: 1,99 €
Why take this test?
Our romantic and interpersonal relationships are deeply influenced by our attachment style and relational patterns. Understanding these mechanisms helps break repetitive cycles, improve communication, and build more fulfilling connections.
The Narcissistic Abuse Test: spotting the cycle of control specifically evaluates 5 key dimensions: Idealization / devaluation cycle, Coercive control & isolation, Manipulation & gaslighting, Lack of empathy, Impact on you. With 25 carefully crafted questions, it provides a detailed and nuanced picture of your psychological profile in this area. The test takes approximately 12 min and can be completed at your own pace, from any device.
Whether you’re seeking personal development, considering therapy, or simply curious about yourself, this test gives you concrete and actionable results to move forward with confidence.
How does it work?
Take the test
Answer the 25 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 12 min.
See your preview
Once you finish, you immediately see a preview of your overall score and profile by dimension — no registration required.
Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
The 25 questions of the Narcissistic Abuse Test: spotting the cycle of control
Here is the full list of items, in complete transparency. Each statement is answered on a scale from 1 (strongly disagree) to 5 (strongly agree).
Reading the questions is not the test: only the scored report (per-dimension scores, radar chart and personalized interpretation) turns your answers into meaning.
Idealization / devaluation cycle
- Early on, this person idealized you intensely (fast declarations, you were "perfect").
- After that phase, they began criticizing, belittling or comparing you unfavourably.
- They alternate between moments of tenderness and phases of coldness or contempt.
- You constantly try to get back the caring person "from the beginning".
- Their affection feels conditional: given then withdrawn depending on your compliance.
Coercive control & isolation
- They control who you see, where you go or who you talk to.
- You have gradually drifted away from friends or family because of them.
- They monitor your messages, your phone or your movements.
- You wait for their implicit approval before doing ordinary things.
- You feel like you are "walking on eggshells" to avoid their reactions.
Manipulation & gaslighting
- They deny facts you actually experienced ("that never happened").
- They twist situations to make you look like the guilty one.
- They make you doubt your memory, your perception or your sanity.
- They play the victim when they are the one who caused harm.
- They use your confidences or weaknesses against you.
Lack of empathy
- They are indifferent to your suffering or minimize it.
- They demand admiration and believe they are superior to others.
- They lie or distort reality without apparent guilt.
- They exploit you (money, time, energy) without reciprocity.
- They never take responsibility for their wrongs and do not apologize sincerely.
Impact on you
- You have felt exhausted, anxious or depressed since this relationship.
- You constantly doubt yourself and your decisions.
- You feel guilty even when you have done nothing wrong.
- You have lost confidence in yourself and in your own judgement.
- You stay despite the suffering, as if "hooked" on the person.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does the Narcissistic Abuse Test: spotting the cycle of control measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Idealization / devaluation cycle, Coercive control & isolation, Manipulation & gaslighting, Lack of empathy, Impact on you. Each dimension is scored individually, giving you a detailed view of your profile rather than a single overall number.
How long does the Narcissistic Abuse Test: spotting the cycle of control take?
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The test contains 25 questions and takes approximately 12 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report (8-15 pages) with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations is available for €1.99.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This test is based on established models in clinical psychology and psychometrics. It evaluates 5 dimensions (Idealization / devaluation cycle, Coercive control & isolation, Manipulation & gaslighting...) using validated assessment scales. However, it is a self-assessment tool and does not replace a professional clinical diagnosis.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your Narcissistic Abuse Test: spotting the cycle of control report includes: your overall score with detailed interpretation, individual analysis of each of the 5 dimensions, a radar chart visualizing your profile, personalized recommendations for improvement, practical exercises, and additional resources.
Is my data kept confidential?
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Absolutely. The test is 100% anonymous — no account creation, no email required. Your answers are stored only in your browser (localStorage) and are never sent to our servers until you purchase a report. All data is automatically deleted after 24 hours.
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About the author
Gildas Garrec · CBT Psychopractitioner
Certified practitioner in cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), author of 16 books on applied psychology and relationships. Over 900 clinical articles published across Psychologie et Sérénité.
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