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Am I a Good Intimate Partner? — Couple Test
64 questions·10 min·5 dimensions·up to 14 clinical frameworks·5 report sections
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This test looks at the place you hold in the intimacy of a couple. It examines four aspects: what is perceived of the other's desires, the sense that the exchange goes both ways, what manages to be said about it, and the attention paid to pleasure being shared. The report describes each of these aspects.
What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.
How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report
The test runs over 64 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
We'd also suggest reading the book The Practical CBT Guide, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.
If you have a question about your report, write to us at contact@psychologieetserenite.com: a psychotherapist will reply within 48 hours.
I'd also suggest analysing your conversation with ScanMyLove; it's a complementary tool that, from your exchanges as partners, sheds light on your relationship dynamics.
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Am I a Good Intimate Partner? — Couple Test — a 64-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test looks at the place you hold in the intimacy of a couple: hearing the other's desires, reciprocity, what gets said, and shared pleasure. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): your score on each of its 5 dimensions, a radar chart, up to 14 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This test covers listening, desire, pleasure, empathy, attention, boundaries, speaking your mind, dialogue, avoidance, loneliness, the relationship, sexuality, responsibility and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Listening If you guess what the other wants, without ever asking them. If you notice the signs they send without saying them. Desire If your own drive carries you along without a thought for where the other is. If you can voice a desire without fearing it weighs on the other. Pleasure If the other's pleasure seems less obvious to you than your own. If their pleasure does you good. Empathy If you sometimes get lost in your own sensations to the point of forgetting the other. If you create the conditions for them to feel good. Attention If you focus on what you feel, without checking what the other is living. If you see the moment the other checks out. Boundaries If you can set a limit without tension rising. If, when a limit is set, you take it into account. Speaking your mind If you keep to yourself what you would like, or what bothers you. If you can manage to say what you like, and what you do not. Dialogue If talking about it between you makes you uncomfortable. If the other and you can talk about it openly. Avoidance If you would rather avoid the subject than face a fight. If you have a time, a place, where delicate subjects can come out. Loneliness If you sometimes feel alone, even though there are two of you. If you sometimes feel the other is there in body, but not truly present. The relationship If one of you regularly comes away empty-handed. If this intimacy belongs to both of you, rather than mostly to one. Sexuality If you follow a script rather than what is happening that night. If the two of you are still searching, together, rather than repeating. Responsibility If you question what you yourself bring to those moments. If you take the initiative so that it stays enjoyable. Readiness to change If you want something to change on that side. If you believe you can make progress on this.
About this test
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Dimensions assessed
- ●Listening to the other's desires- To what extent I perceive, listen to and take into account my partner's intimate desires and needs.
- ●Reciprocity- The sense that intimacy between us is a space of genuine exchange, not merely of giving or receiving.
- ●Intimate communication- My capacity to express my own desires, to hear those of the other, and to talk about the intimacy between us.
- ●Attention to shared pleasure- The attention I pay to ensuring our intimacy is satisfying for both of us, not just for me.
- ●Readiness to Change- Measures your current readiness to acknowledge what you're experiencing and allow your situation to evolve.
Reference frameworks and authors
- based on Byers, E. S. (2005). Relationship satisfaction and sexual satisfaction: A longitudinal study of individuals in long-term relationships. Journal of Sex Research, 42(2), 113–118.
Questioning your place as an intimate partner takes an honesty that deserves recognition. These questions don't mean you aren't a good partner — they mean you care about it, which is already a form of presence to the other.
Why take this test?
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Personal development relies on deep self-knowledge: your values, emotional intelligence, resilience, and self-confidence. Assessing these dimensions gives you a clear roadmap for growth and achieving your life goals.
The Am I a Good Intimate Partner? — Couple Test specifically evaluates 5 key dimensions: Listening to the other's desires, Reciprocity, Intimate communication, Attention to shared pleasure, Readiness to Change. With 64 carefully crafted questions, it provides a detailed and nuanced picture of your psychological profile in this area. The test takes approximately 10 min and can be completed at your own pace, from any device.
Whether you’re seeking personal development, considering therapy, or simply curious about yourself, this test gives you concrete and actionable results to move forward with confidence.
Daily-life situations this test explores
To help you picture what to expect before you start, here are the concrete contexts the Am I a Good Intimate Partner? — Couple Test sheds light on. This is not the list of questions (you discover them when you start the test) — it is the life situations it assesses.
In your life choices
How you make important decisions: listening to your values or following others’ expectations, projecting far or staying in survival mode.
Facing failure or setback
Your ability to bounce back: inner narratives, resources you mobilize, time to recover, lessons you draw from it.
In social relationships
Ease in connecting, setting limits, receiving a compliment, refusing a request without guilt.
In self-knowledge
Clarity on your needs, emotions, strengths and shadow areas; ability to observe yourself without judgment.
How does it work?
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Take the test
Answer the 64 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
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Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
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Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does the Am I a Good Intimate Partner? — Couple Test measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Listening to the other's desires, Reciprocity, Intimate communication, Attention to shared pleasure, Readiness to Change. Each dimension is scored individually, giving you a detailed view of your profile rather than a single overall number.
How long does the Am I a Good Intimate Partner? — Couple Test take?
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The test contains 64 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This test is based on established models in clinical psychology and psychometrics. It evaluates 5 dimensions (Listening to the other's desires, Reciprocity, Intimate communication...) using validated assessment scales.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your Am I a Good Intimate Partner? — Couple Test report includes: your overall score with detailed interpretation, individual analysis of each of the 5 dimensions, a radar chart visualizing your profile, personalized recommendations for improvement, practical exercises, and additional resources.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is the Am I a Good Intimate Partner? — Couple Test for?
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This test is designed for any adult wishing to better understand their functioning in this area, whether out of curiosity, as part of a self-knowledge journey or to prepare a conversation with a professional.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake the Am I a Good Intimate Partner? — Couple Test as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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Your report offers a clinical reading of your profile with concrete recommendations. You can use it as material for personal reflection, to open a conversation with someone close to you, or take it to a professional (psychologist, therapist, doctor) to enrich the consultation with a structured view of your dimensions.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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