Do we really talk about sex in our relationship?

This test covers speaking your mind, shame, avoidance, judgment, listening, empathy, consent, boundaries, desire, conflict, repair, dialogue, secrecy and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Speaking your mind If you have difficulty putting your sexual desires or needs into words, even when you feel them clearly. If you manage to tell your partner what you like about your sex life. Shame If shame or embarrassment prevents you from talking about your sexual needs. If you can talk about your sexual preferences with your partner without too much discomfort. Avoidance If you prefer to stay silent rather than face a difficult conversation about sex. If you feel free to start a conversation about sex when you need to. Judgment If you sometimes judge your partner's desires even if you say nothing. If fear of your partner's judgment prevents you from raising certain sexual topics. Listening If you sometimes react defensively when your partner talks about their sexual dissatisfactions. If, when your partner expresses a sexual desire or wish, you listen without interrupting. Empathy If you sometimes minimize or relativize what your partner feels in your sex life. If you notice when your partner seems dissatisfied even when they do not say so. Consent If you have difficulty declining a sexual invitation from your partner, even when you are not in the mood. If you can decline a sexual proposal without it becoming a source of conflict. Boundaries If you often give in to what your partner wants in order to avoid tension, even when it is not what you want. If you are able to mutually respect each other's limits in the sexual domain. Desire If your differences in desire create tension or resentment between you. If, when you do not have the same desires, you manage to talk about it calmly. Conflict If sex is a topic on which you often feel you do not understand each other. If you manage to talk after a period without sex, without it turning into an argument. Repair If your disagreements about sex often remain unresolved. If your conversations about sex often lead to something constructive. Dialogue If there are aspects of your sex life you never discuss, by tacit agreement. If sex is a topic you talk about freely in your relationship. Secrecy If you sometimes fake or conceal what you truly feel in order to avoid a difficult conversation. If you think you both have sexual dissatisfactions you have never shared with each other. Readiness to change If you want your situation to evolve. If you are ready to take concrete steps to evolve how you communicate about sex.