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Emotional Wounds in the Couple
64 questions·10 min·5 dimensions·up to 18 clinical frameworks·5 report sections
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This test looks at the emotional traces of the past that still influence the relationship. It describes traces rather than culprits: what gets reactivated from old experiences, what is projected onto the other at that moment, the gap between the intensity of a reaction and its trigger, and what makes it possible to find each other again afterwards. The report describes each of these aspects.
What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.
How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report
The test runs over 64 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
We'd also suggest reading the book The Practical CBT Guide, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.
If you have a question about your report, write to us at contact@psychologieetserenite.com: a psychotherapist will reply within 48 hours.
I'd also suggest analysing your conversation with ScanMyLove; it's a complementary tool that, from your exchanges as partners, sheds light on your relationship dynamics.
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Emotional Wounds in the Couple — a 64-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test looks at the emotional traces of the past still active in the relationship: reactivation, projection, disproportionate reactions, repair. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): your score on each of its 5 dimensions, a radar chart, up to 18 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This test covers the relationship, attachment, reassurance, hypervigilance, anticipation, anger, tension, conflict, shame, remorse, repair, withdrawal, support and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example The relationship If you feel an old story is replaying itself in this one. If you can savor today without yesterday getting involved. Attachment If your earlier wounds echo in the story you are living now. If you could name the wounds that shaped the way you love. Reassurance If you need reassurance more often than most people. If a message left unanswered for a few hours puts you on alert. Hypervigilance If you watch for signals because you already know where they lead. If you can listen to them without the filter of an old wound. Anticipation If you build dark scenarios that never turn out to be true. If you see them as they are, even in the middle of the storm. Anger If a sigh or a door shut a little hard is enough to tip everything over. If you can go through tension without being carried away. Tension If your own intensity takes you by surprise. If you know how to come back to calm after an outburst. Conflict If, after a fight, the silence can last several days in your home. If you can disagree without it turning into a crisis. Shame If, after an outburst, you are left alone with the shame. If you try to understand your reactions rather than condemn yourself. Remorse If you recognize afterward that the situation was not worth it. If you have already apologized for having misread something. Repair If there are things never settled that resurface in every argument. If you have a gesture, a word, a habit that puts things back in place. Withdrawal If, when you are the one who was hurt, you wait for the other to come first. If you can come back to the other before you have untangled everything. Support If taking the first step drains you of your energy. If, after a bad patch, you know how to find each other again the same evening. Readiness to change If you want them to have less of a hold on you. If you believe you are capable of moving forward on this.
About this test
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Dimensions assessed
- ●Reactivation of past wounds- Painful past experiences — from childhood, previous relationships, or the current relationship — can be reactivated in the couple, often without the person being aware of it.
- ●Projection onto the partner- When a wound is active, we sometimes attribute to the other person intentions or behaviors that the situation does not fully explain.
- ●Disproportionate reactions- A reactivated wound can generate an emotional reaction that seems out of proportion with the triggering situation.
- ●Capacity to repair- After difficult moments, the capacity to find each other again, to acknowledge what happened, and to rebuild connection is central in any relationship.
- ●Readiness to Change- Measures your current readiness to acknowledge what you are experiencing and allow your situation to evolve.
Reference frameworks and authors
Emotional wounds do not define who you are. They tell the story of what you have been through — and of what you have put in place to protect yourself or to keep going. This test is not looking for someone to blame: it explores the traces these experiences have left in you, and your capacity to move through them differently.
Why take this test?
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Personal development relies on deep self-knowledge: your values, emotional intelligence, resilience, and self-confidence. Assessing these dimensions gives you a clear roadmap for growth and achieving your life goals.
The Emotional Wounds in the Couple specifically evaluates 5 key dimensions: Reactivation of past wounds, Projection onto the partner, Disproportionate reactions, Capacity to repair, Readiness to Change. With 64 carefully crafted questions, it provides a detailed and nuanced picture of your psychological profile in this area. The test takes approximately 10 min and can be completed at your own pace, from any device.
Whether you’re seeking personal development, considering therapy, or simply curious about yourself, this test gives you concrete and actionable results to move forward with confidence.
Daily-life situations this test explores
To help you picture what to expect before you start, here are the concrete contexts the Emotional Wounds in the Couple sheds light on. This is not the list of questions (you discover them when you start the test) — it is the life situations it assesses.
In your life choices
How you make important decisions: listening to your values or following others’ expectations, projecting far or staying in survival mode.
Facing failure or setback
Your ability to bounce back: inner narratives, resources you mobilize, time to recover, lessons you draw from it.
In social relationships
Ease in connecting, setting limits, receiving a compliment, refusing a request without guilt.
In self-knowledge
Clarity on your needs, emotions, strengths and shadow areas; ability to observe yourself without judgment.
How does it work?
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Take the test
Answer the 64 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
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Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
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Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does the Emotional Wounds in the Couple measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Reactivation of past wounds, Projection onto the partner, Disproportionate reactions, Capacity to repair, Readiness to Change. Each dimension is scored individually, giving you a detailed view of your profile rather than a single overall number.
How long does the Emotional Wounds in the Couple take?
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The test contains 64 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This test is based on established models in clinical psychology and psychometrics. It evaluates 5 dimensions (Reactivation of past wounds, Projection onto the partner, Disproportionate reactions...) using validated assessment scales.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your Emotional Wounds in the Couple report includes: your overall score with detailed interpretation, individual analysis of each of the 5 dimensions, a radar chart visualizing your profile, personalized recommendations for improvement, practical exercises, and additional resources.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is the Emotional Wounds in the Couple for?
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This test is designed for any adult wishing to better understand their functioning in this area, whether out of curiosity, as part of a self-knowledge journey or to prepare a conversation with a professional.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake the Emotional Wounds in the Couple as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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Your report offers a clinical reading of your profile with concrete recommendations. You can use it as material for personal reflection, to open a conversation with someone close to you, or take it to a professional (psychologist, therapist, doctor) to enrich the consultation with a structured view of your dimensions.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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