Is My Libido Affecting Our Relationship? — Self-Test

This test covers desire, sexuality, the couple, frustration, guilt, consent, limits, speaking, dialogue, the body, tiredness, daily life, conflicts, mood and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Desire If, for a while now, your sexual desire for your partner has been fading into the background. If, during the day, you find yourself wanting your partner without even thinking about it. Sexuality If you can go a long time without the thought of making love crossing your mind. If, lately, you have still felt a strong desire to make love. The couple If your gap in sexual desire has already affected your relationship at some point. If together you have found a way to live with this difference. Frustration If, faced with this gap in desire, month after month, you no longer know what to do. If, from one week to the next, the gap in libido between you does not weigh on you. Guilt If you feel guilty in the morning for not having had the same desire as your partner the night before. If, when one of you declines in the evening, the week goes on without tension between you. Consent If you agree to sex when you don't want it, to please your partner. If you can say out loud, in bed, what you want, including a specific fantasy. Limits If you keep quiet about a limit in bed to avoid an argument. If, when you say in bed what you need, your partner hears it and takes it into account. Speaking If, in the evening, you find it hard to tell your partner you don't feel like making love. If, on a weeknight, you can easily start a conversation about your sexual desires. Dialogue If your sex life is the subject you have been skirting at the table for months. If, at some point, you have spent a whole evening talking about your sexual desires and limits. The body If your reflection in the mirror, before going to bed, dampens your desire to make love. If, when you feel desire, your body follows: arousal, lubrication or an erection follow. Tiredness If everyday worries and the children follow you all the way into bed. If, even after a short night, tiredness does not dent your libido. Daily life If a worry about money, family or health makes your libido drop within the week. If, even after a particularly busy day, your libido stays intact in the evening. Conflicts If an argument at dinner cuts off your desire to make love for the evening. If how things have been between you over the past few days decides whether you want to make love. Mood If, after a day in a bad mood, your libido drops to zero by the evening. If the sameness of your evenings has not dented your sexual desire for your partner. Readiness to change If what you have just described weighs on your intimate life. If you want to change the way you function day to day.