Hello Emma,
Overall result
Uncertain situationSome elements are encouraging but others call for caution. The situation deserves time and reflection before any action.
Detailed analysis
Your motivations blend sincere love with less healthy factors (fear of loneliness, wounded ego, habit). This is normal after a breakup.
Your answers place deep motivations in the average range of your profile. This indicates present foundations that can be strengthened by regular work. At this level, deliberate practice — choosing a precise aspect, working on it, adjusting — is often more effective than a global, undifferentiated improvement. The middle tier is also the one where it is easiest to plateau, because the basics are enough to "get by" without pushing you to progress: stepping slightly out of your comfort zone is what restarts the curve. Set yourself a goal slightly above your current level, enough to stimulate without discouraging, and look for concrete feedback to know whether you are moving forward. It is often from this level that progress becomes the most rewarding, because it shows quickly.
Recommendations
- ✓Take time to distinguish what stems from love and what stems from fear
- ✓Wait at least 30 days before any reconciliation attempt to clarify your motivations
Your relationship had significant dysfunctions. Nostalgia can mask the reality of what you experienced.
Your answers describe a well-developed dimension for quality of the former relationship. It is a resource you can rely on, in particular to compensate for other dimensions where you have more room for growth. Maintaining this level over time requires continuous practice: without upkeep, some skills erode or stiffen. A point of vigilance at this level is overconfidence: a strength that is overused can become an automatism that prevents you from exploring other ways of doing things. Keeping it alive comes through variety — applying it to new contexts, passing it on, confronting it with other approaches. And because it comes easily to you, it is often an excellent foothold for tackling, without discouragement, the dimensions where you progress more slowly.
Recommendations
- ✓Beware of post-breakup idealization that embellishes the past
- ✓Ask trusted friends and family for their honest opinion about this relationship
- ✓Returning to a dysfunctional relationship without foundational work will reproduce the same patterns
Your emotional state is still fragile. Emotions are influencing your thoughts and decisions.
On current emotional state, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓Wait longer before making any important decisions
- ✓Talk about your situation with a trusted friend or professional
- ✓Decisions made in the heat of emotion are rarely the best ones
The majority of signals from your ex indicate distancing. They seem to have made their decision and are moving forward.
On signals from your ex, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓The signals suggest your ex does not wish to come back at this time
- ✓Investing your energy in reconciliation risks exhausting you
- ✓Focus on your own healing and rebuilding
Profile synthesis
Your profile is in the average range. You have resources on some dimensions and room for progress on others, which is the most common and balanced profile. The challenge, at this stage, is not to fix "weaknesses" but to direct your energy where it will have the most effect. Your strengths can serve as support to work on the dimensions that are more in the background: progress often comes faster by building on what already works. Deliberate practice — targeting a precise aspect, exercising it, adjusting based on feedback — is more effective here than a general, diffuse desire to improve.
How your dimensions interact
Several dimensions are simultaneously marked (Quality of the Former Relationship, Signals from Your Ex). They belong to the same profile coherence: these are not isolated results, but the facets of an overall functioning that holds together. Identifying what they have in common helps you understand your way of functioning more globally, beyond each score taken separately. These dimensions can also support one another: progressing on one often makes the others easier, because they share close mechanisms or habits. This is a useful angle for deciding where to focus your efforts first.
Your action plan
Right now
- →Deep Motivations — Take time to distinguish what stems from love and what stems from fear
- →Deep Motivations — Wait at least 30 days before any reconciliation attempt to clarify your motivations
- →Current Emotional State — Wait longer before making any important decisions
- →Current Emotional State — Talk about your situation with a trusted friend or professional
In the coming weeks
- →Deep Motivations — Take time to distinguish what stems from love and what stems from fear
- →Current Emotional State — Wait longer before making any important decisions
In the long run
- →Retake this test in 3 to 6 months to measure your progress. Lasting change is rarely measured over a few weeks.
- →Choose one dimension to develop as a priority rather than all at once: focused effort generally yields better results.
- →Find an adapted practice environment (training, mentor, community, coach): isolated progress is possible but often slower.
- →Document your progression (brief journal, regular check-ins): what is measured gets worked on, and the written trace helps see progress invisible day-to-day.
Your answers in detail
1. I want to get back with my ex because I love them deeply, not just out of habit.
Answer : Somewhat agree
You answered "Somewhat agree". Can you tell me more about when this comes up for you?
It mainly shows up in situations that matter to me, when I feel under pressure or emotionally involved.
2. What I miss most is being in a relationship rather than this person in particular.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
And how long have you noticed this?
It has been more present over the past few months, though I recognise it from before too.
3. I want to get my ex back mainly because the idea of them being with someone else is unbearable to me.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
4. The people around me think this relationship wasn't good for me, but I disagree.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
5. I'm afraid I'll never find someone like my ex again.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
6. I'm ready to change what wasn't working in the relationship if we get back together.
Answer : Somewhat agree
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