Hello Emma,
Overall result
Relational functioning to consolidateYour relational functioning is average (50%). You have real resources, but certain dimensions drag the whole down and deserve targeted work.
Your profile at a glance
Detailed analysis
Your attachment security is partial (40%). You swing between trust and anxiety depending on the situation.
Your answers place attachment security in the average range of your profile. This indicates present foundations that can be strengthened by regular work. At this level, deliberate practice — choosing a precise aspect, working on it, adjusting — is often more effective than a global, undifferentiated improvement. The middle tier is also the one where it is easiest to plateau, because the basics are enough to "get by" without pushing you to progress: stepping slightly out of your comfort zone is what restarts the curve. Set yourself a goal slightly above your current level, enough to stimulate without discouraging, and look for concrete feedback to know whether you are moving forward. It is often from this level that progress becomes the most rewarding, because it shows quickly.
Recommendations
- ✓Learn to self-soothe before seeking reassurance from the other person.
- ✓Gradually expose yourself to emotional closeness.
You communicate in a healthy way (60%): listening and self-expression are clearly present.
Your answers describe a well-developed dimension for communication. It is a resource you can rely on, in particular to compensate for other dimensions where you have more room for growth. Maintaining this level over time requires continuous practice: without upkeep, some skills erode or stiffen. A point of vigilance at this level is overconfidence: a strength that is overused can become an automatism that prevents you from exploring other ways of doing things. Keeping it alive comes through variety — applying it to new contexts, passing it on, confronting it with other approaches. And because it comes easily to you, it is often an excellent foothold for tackling, without discouragement, the dimensions where you progress more slowly.
Recommendations
- ✓Keep appreciating your partner explicitly.
- ✓Regularly ask for feedback on the quality of your exchanges.
Your conflict management is fragile (40%): a few harmful reflexes persist (resentment, last word).
On conflict management, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓Ban "always/never" statements and contempt.
- ✓Come back to repair the bond after every argument.
Your intimacy is good (60%): you share your inner world and feel connected.
On emotional intimacy, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓Keep your curiosity alive about the other person's inner world.
- ✓Put your attachment into words regularly.
Your trust is fragile (40%): overwhelming worries resurface regularly.
On trust & managing jealousy, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓Distinguish a fact from an interpretation before reacting.
- ✓Put your insecurity into words rather than monitoring.
You are emotionally autonomous (60%): you exist fully outside the bond.
On emotional autonomy, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓Protect your personal spaces.
- ✓Keep making autonomous decisions.
Your boundaries are fragile (40%): you often give in out of fear of conflict or of disappointing.
On boundaries & assertiveness, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓Tolerate the discomfort of disappointing: it is temporary.
- ✓Make one direct request a day.
You are clear-sighted (60%): you recognize coercive tactics and trust your feelings.
On clarity in the face of manipulation, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓Keep validating your feelings.
- ✓Set firm boundaries against the tactics you spot.
Your commitment is hesitant (40%): you keep an escape route or doubt at the slightest obstacle.
On commitment & projection, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓Consciously close the mental "escape routes".
- ✓Build a small shared short-term project.
Your relationship is balanced (60%): mutual support and individuality coexist.
On balance & interdependence, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓Keep deciding together.
- ✓Make sure the relationship serves each person's growth.
Profile synthesis
Your profile is in the average range. You have resources on some dimensions and room for progress on others, which is the most common and balanced profile. The challenge, at this stage, is not to fix "weaknesses" but to direct your energy where it will have the most effect. Your strengths can serve as support to work on the dimensions that are more in the background: progress often comes faster by building on what already works. Deliberate practice — targeting a precise aspect, exercising it, adjusting based on feedback — is more effective here than a general, diffuse desire to improve.
How your dimensions interact
Several dimensions are simultaneously marked (Communication, Emotional intimacy, Emotional autonomy, Clarity in the face of manipulation, Balance & interdependence). They belong to the same profile coherence: these are not isolated results, but the facets of an overall functioning that holds together. Identifying what they have in common helps you understand your way of functioning more globally, beyond each score taken separately. These dimensions can also support one another: progressing on one often makes the others easier, because they share close mechanisms or habits. This is a useful angle for deciding where to focus your efforts first.
Your action plan
Right now
- →Attachment security — Learn to self-soothe before seeking reassurance from the other person.
- →Attachment security — Gradually expose yourself to emotional closeness.
- →Conflict management — Ban "always/never" statements and contempt.
- →Conflict management — Come back to repair the bond after every argument.
- →Trust & managing jealousy — Distinguish a fact from an interpretation before reacting.
- →Trust & managing jealousy — Put your insecurity into words rather than monitoring.
- →Boundaries & assertiveness — Tolerate the discomfort of disappointing: it is temporary.
- →Boundaries & assertiveness — Make one direct request a day.
- →Commitment & projection — Consciously close the mental "escape routes".
- →Commitment & projection — Build a small shared short-term project.
In the coming weeks
- →Attachment security — Learn to self-soothe before seeking reassurance from the other person.
- →Conflict management — Ban "always/never" statements and contempt.
- →Trust & managing jealousy — Distinguish a fact from an interpretation before reacting.
- →Boundaries & assertiveness — Tolerate the discomfort of disappointing: it is temporary.
- →Commitment & projection — Consciously close the mental "escape routes".
In the long run
- →Retake this test in 3 to 6 months to measure your progress. Lasting change is rarely measured over a few weeks.
- →Choose one dimension to develop as a priority rather than all at once: focused effort generally yields better results.
- →Find an adapted practice environment (training, mentor, community, coach): isolated progress is possible but often slower.
- →Document your progression (brief journal, regular check-ins): what is measured gets worked on, and the written trace helps see progress invisible day-to-day.
Resources & exercise
7-day observation journal
Each day, spot one situation where “Communication” showed up. Note the automatic thought, the emotion (0–100) and what you did. Then write one more balanced, alternative reading. After 7 days, re-read your notes: the recurring patterns become visible — the first step to change them.
Support resources
If you are struggling, you are not alone. United States: call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, 24/7). Elsewhere: find your local line at findahelpline.com. This report supports self-knowledge and does not replace a consultation with a psychologist or doctor.
Your answers in detail
1. I feel safe in my close relationships, even during disagreements.
Answer : Rarely
You answered "Rarely". Can you tell me more about when this comes up for you?
It mainly shows up in situations that matter to me, when I feel under pressure or emotionally involved.
2. I can rely on my partner without fearing abandonment.
Answer : Rarely
And how long have you noticed this?
It has been more present over the past few months, though I recognise it from before too.
3. I am comfortable expressing my emotional needs.
Answer : Rarely
4. I find it easy to trust the person I love.
Answer : Rarely
5. I stay calm when my partner takes time for themselves.
Answer : Rarely
6. I believe I deserve a stable, loving relationship.
Answer : Rarely
7. …
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