Hello Emma,
Overall result
Good relational balanceYou generally show a good level of emotional security in your relationships with some areas for improvement.
Your profile at a glance
Detailed analysis
You show some foundations of secure attachment but with areas of vulnerability. Certain situations can still destabilize your sense of security.
Your answers show that secure attachment is present in a nuanced way in your profile. This facet expresses itself according to contexts, without dominating overall functioning. It can be more visible in certain situations (close relationships, professional contexts, important decisions) and more discreet in others. This flexibility is often an asset: it lets you modulate your functioning according to what the situation calls for, rather than always reacting in the same way. Observing in which contexts this facet activates most in you is a good way to know yourself better and to use this adaptability consciously.
Recommendations
- ✓Identify the situations that weaken your emotional security
- ✓Develop regular connection rituals with those close to you
Your anxious attachment is high. Fear of abandonment and need for reassurance significantly impact your relationships.
Your answers show that anxious attachment is a marked facet of your profile. It is a structuring characteristic that influences your preferences, your reactions, and the way you approach situations. To understand rather than to correct: knowing this facet helps better choose contexts where it is an asset and anticipate those where it can create friction. A marked facet almost always has two sides — a strength in some situations, a point of vigilance in others — and it is knowing them, not suppressing them, that makes the difference. Rather than trying to become "more moderate", it is often more useful to learn to place this facet in the right context and to let those around you know how it expresses itself.
Recommendations
- ✓Consult a therapist specialized in attachment
- ✓Work on your self-esteem independently of your relationships
Your avoidant tendency is high. You tend to withdraw emotionally and avoid deep intimacy.
On avoidant attachment, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓Work with a professional to explore the reasons for this distancing
- ✓Experiment with moments of vulnerability in a safe setting
Your disorganization in attachment is very high. This may be linked to traumatic relational experiences that require particular attention.
Your answers show that disorganized attachment is a very prominent facet of your profile. It is a strong characteristic that colors your overall functioning, without being positive or negative in itself: it is a cognitive/relational style among others. People with a high score on this facet often benefit from knowing the contexts in which it works in their favor and those in which it demands specific vigilance. At this level of intensity, the facet tends to express itself quite consistently, including in situations where another approach would sometimes be more effective: being aware of it lets you keep the choice rather than running on autopilot. It is also a facet that those around you can greatly appreciate when it is put at the service of a common goal — knowing it finely helps you make it an owned strength.
Recommendations
- ✓Consult a therapist specialized in trauma and attachment
- ✓EMDR therapy or schema therapy may be particularly beneficial
Profile synthesis
Your profile on this questionnaire draws a set of facets characteristic of your functioning. No combination is better than another: it is about understanding how your facets interact rather than trying to score "well" or "badly". Each facet colors the way you perceive, decide, and relate to others; it is their arrangement, unique to you, that gives the whole its coherence. Knowing this profile concretely helps you choose the contexts where your natural tendencies work in your favor, and anticipate those where they may require an adaptation effort. The point is not to lock you into a label, but to give you a language to understand yourself better and explain how you function to those around you.
How your dimensions interact
Several dimensions are simultaneously marked (Anxious Attachment, Avoidant Attachment, Disorganized Attachment). They belong to the same profile coherence: these are not isolated results, but the facets of an overall functioning that holds together. Identifying what they have in common helps you understand your way of functioning more globally, beyond each score taken separately. These dimensions can also support one another: progressing on one often makes the others easier, because they share close mechanisms or habits. This is a useful angle for deciding where to focus your efforts first.
Your action plan
Right now
- →Secure Attachment — Identify the situations that weaken your emotional security
- →Secure Attachment — Develop regular connection rituals with those close to you
In the coming weeks
- →Secure Attachment — Identify the situations that weaken your emotional security
In the long run
- →Retake this test in 3 to 6 months to measure your progress. Lasting change is rarely measured over a few weeks.
- →Choose one dimension to develop as a priority rather than all at once: focused effort generally yields better results.
- →Find an adapted practice environment (training, mentor, community, coach): isolated progress is possible but often slower.
- →Document your progression (brief journal, regular check-ins): what is measured gets worked on, and the written trace helps see progress invisible day-to-day.
Resources & exercise
7-day observation journal
Each day, spot one situation where “Disorganized Attachment” showed up. Note the automatic thought, the emotion (0–100) and what you did. Then write one more balanced, alternative reading. After 7 days, re-read your notes: the recurring patterns become visible — the first step to change them.
Support resources
If you are struggling, you are not alone. United States: call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, 24/7). Elsewhere: find your local line at findahelpline.com. This report supports self-knowledge and does not replace a consultation with a psychologist or doctor.
Your answers in detail
1. I feel comfortable when those close to me express their affection toward me.
Answer : Rarely
You answered "Rarely". Can you tell me more about when this comes up for you?
It mainly shows up in situations that matter to me, when I feel under pressure or emotionally involved.
2. I trust in the stability of my important relationships.
Answer : Rarely
And how long have you noticed this?
It has been more present over the past few months, though I recognise it from before too.
3. I am able to ask for support when I need it.
Answer : Rarely
4. I can talk openly about my emotions with my partner.
Answer : Rarely
5. I feel secure even when my partner is away.
Answer : Rarely
6. I handle disagreements well without fearing a breakup.
Answer : Rarely
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