Hello Emma,
Overall result
Moderate codependencySome codependent tendencies are present and manifest mainly in your closest relationships.
Your profile at a glance
Detailed analysis
You show a moderate tendency to sacrifice yourself for others. Certain situations push you to neglect your own needs.
Your answers indicate present but contained manifestations on self-sacrifice. The moderate level typically reflects activation at times, often linked to identifiable triggers (stressful situations, relational conflicts, periods of fatigue or isolation). At this stage, the dimension is not dominant in your functioning, but it deserves observation: the main risk of the moderate level is that it worsens by accumulation. In practical terms, watching the frequency rather than the intensity of an isolated episode gives a truer picture of the trend: it is repetition, more than occasional strength, that tips the moderate toward the marked. Keeping a regular check-in (brief journal, conversation with a trusted person) can help anticipate. Identifying two or three recurring triggers and preparing a simple response in advance — a break, a call, a soothing activity — reduces the likelihood of the dimension settling in. If other dimensions evolve in parallel, this one can become more salient through cumulative effect; and if these manifestations gain ground despite your efforts, talking about it early with a professional is in no way disproportionate — it is often at this stage that support is most effective and shortest.
Recommendations
- ✓Practice self-compassion regularly
- ✓Learn to delegate and accept that you cannot manage everything for others
Your need to control situations and people is high. This often masks deep-seated anxiety.
Your answers describe a marked trait on control. At this level, the dimension can self-perpetuate through self-reinforcing mechanisms (avoidance, attentional focus, or rumination), whose exact form depends on the dimension concerned. This trait typically manifests in several everyday contexts, not just in exceptional situations. Understanding the self-reinforcing mechanism is often the key: for instance, avoiding a situation brings short-term relief but confirms to the brain that it was dangerous, which strengthens avoidance the next time. Spotting this kind of loop in your own daily life — without judging yourself — is already a lever for change, because you can only act on what you have first identified. It can interact with other elevated dimensions of the profile — for instance by worsening the feeling of overload or limiting available resources to cope with it. It can be useful to talk about it with a professional (psychologist, doctor) to explore in more detail what is at play and identify levers for action; structured approaches such as cognitive behavioral therapy work precisely on these chains, through small concrete and realistic steps rather than willpower alone.
Recommendations
- ✓Work on your underlying anxiety with a professional
- ✓Learn to tolerate uncertainty and let go
Your self-esteem is sometimes fragile, especially in certain relational situations.
On low self-esteem, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓Identify the situations that undermine your self-esteem
- ✓Practice assertiveness in your daily life
Your relational boundaries are significantly blurred. You tend to lose yourself in others' needs and emotions.
On blurred boundaries, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓Therapeutic support would help you define and maintain your boundaries
- ✓Practice re-centering exercises focused on your own emotions
Profile synthesis
Your profile shows moderate manifestations. Some dimensions deserve attention without being alarming: they describe real but contained difficulties that do not yet occupy the center of your functioning. The moderate level is precisely the one where observation is most useful, because it can evolve in either direction depending on what is happening in your life. Identifying the contexts and moments where these dimensions intensify — fatigue, conflict, overload, isolation — gives you concrete levers to act early. Talking about it with a trusted person or a professional, even without urgency, can help clarify what is at play and avoid a worsening through accumulation.
How your dimensions interact
Several dimensions show simultaneously high scores (Control, Blurred Boundaries). These dimensions do not operate in isolation: they can reinforce one another, each sustaining the others in a loop that makes the overall picture heavier than the sum of its parts. The good news about this mechanism is that it also works in reverse: targeted work on one of them, often the most accessible or the most pervasive, can have positive cascading effects on the others. It is precisely this kind of link that a professional can help untangle, to choose where to start rather than facing everything at once.
Your action plan
Right now
- →Control — Work on your underlying anxiety with a professional
- →Control — Learn to tolerate uncertainty and let go
- →Blurred Boundaries — Therapeutic support would help you define and maintain your boundaries
- →Blurred Boundaries — Practice re-centering exercises focused on your own emotions
In the coming weeks
- →Self-Sacrifice — Practice self-compassion regularly
- →Low Self-Esteem — Identify the situations that undermine your self-esteem
In the long run
- →Retake this test in 3 to 6 months to measure your evolution. Significant changes on elevated dimensions are often visible at this time scale.
- →If you start therapeutic work, identify together 1 or 2 priority dimensions rather than addressing everything at once — targeted work is more effective than global work.
- →Build a lasting support network: health professional (psychologist, psychiatrist, primary care doctor), close ones, possibly support groups. Solidity comes from number and complementarity.
- →Take care of physiological foundations (sleep, nutrition, physical activity): they do not cure but they strongly condition psychological availability for therapeutic work.
Resources & exercise
7-day observation journal
Each day, spot one situation where “Control” showed up. Note the automatic thought, the emotion (0–100) and what you did. Then write one more balanced, alternative reading. After 7 days, re-read your notes: the recurring patterns become visible — the first step to change them.
Support resources
If you are struggling, you are not alone. United States: call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, 24/7). Elsewhere: find your local line at findahelpline.com. This report supports self-knowledge and does not replace a consultation with a psychologist or doctor.
Your answers in detail
1. I know how to protect my own needs, even when others are counting on me.
Answer : Often
You answered "Often". Can you tell me more about when this comes up for you?
It mainly shows up in situations that matter to me, when I feel under pressure or emotionally involved.
2. I feel guilty when I take time for myself.
Answer : Rarely
And how long have you noticed this?
It has been more present over the past few months, though I recognise it from before too.
3. I know how to say no when I am tired or worn out.
Answer : Often
4. I feel responsible for my partner's happiness.
Answer : Rarely
5. I neglect my own health to take care of others.
Answer : Rarely
6. I turn down situations that make me suffer, even at the risk of disappointing others.
Answer : Often
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