Hello Emma,
Overall result
Moderate emotional dependencyYou have some tendencies toward emotional dependency that remain manageable.
Your profile at a glance
Detailed analysis
You have some abandonment anxieties that manifest in specific contexts.
Your answers indicate present but contained manifestations on fear of abandonment. The moderate level typically reflects activation at times, often linked to identifiable triggers (stressful situations, relational conflicts, periods of fatigue or isolation). At this stage, the dimension is not dominant in your functioning, but it deserves observation: the main risk of the moderate level is that it worsens by accumulation. In practical terms, watching the frequency rather than the intensity of an isolated episode gives a truer picture of the trend: it is repetition, more than occasional strength, that tips the moderate toward the marked. Keeping a regular check-in (brief journal, conversation with a trusted person) can help anticipate. Identifying two or three recurring triggers and preparing a simple response in advance — a break, a call, a soothing activity — reduces the likelihood of the dimension settling in. If other dimensions evolve in parallel, this one can become more salient through cumulative effect; and if these manifestations gain ground despite your efforts, talking about it early with a professional is in no way disproportionate — it is often at this stage that support is most effective and shortest.
Recommendations
- ✓Identify the situations that trigger your fear of abandonment.
- ✓Communicate your reassurance needs to your partner.
- ✓Work on building confidence in yourself and your relationships.
Your need for approval is significant and affects your autonomy.
Your answers describe a marked trait on need for approval. At this level, the dimension can self-perpetuate through self-reinforcing mechanisms (avoidance, attentional focus, or rumination), whose exact form depends on the dimension concerned. This trait typically manifests in several everyday contexts, not just in exceptional situations. Understanding the self-reinforcing mechanism is often the key: for instance, avoiding a situation brings short-term relief but confirms to the brain that it was dangerous, which strengthens avoidance the next time. Spotting this kind of loop in your own daily life — without judging yourself — is already a lever for change, because you can only act on what you have first identified. It can interact with other elevated dimensions of the profile — for instance by worsening the feeling of overload or limiting available resources to cope with it. It can be useful to talk about it with a professional (psychologist, doctor) to explore in more detail what is at play and identify levers for action; structured approaches such as cognitive behavioral therapy work precisely on these chains, through small concrete and realistic steps rather than willpower alone.
Recommendations
- ✓Work on your self-esteem independently of others' views.
- ✓Practice activities that strengthen your inner confidence.
- ✓Professional support can help you free yourself from this need.
You alternate between moments of solitude and need for company without major difficulty.
On difficulty with solitude, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓Maintain this balance between solitude and socialization.
- ✓Develop activities you enjoy doing alone.
- ✓Listen to your needs of the moment without guilt.
You have a strong tendency to efface yourself for the benefit of others.
On self-erasure, this level calls for the same reading as detailed above for another dimension of the same intensity (see the analysis above).
Recommendations
- ✓Working on assertiveness is essential.
- ✓Reconnect with your own desires and preferences.
- ✓Professional support can help you find your voice.
Profile synthesis
Your profile shows moderate manifestations. Some dimensions deserve attention without being alarming: they describe real but contained difficulties that do not yet occupy the center of your functioning. The moderate level is precisely the one where observation is most useful, because it can evolve in either direction depending on what is happening in your life. Identifying the contexts and moments where these dimensions intensify — fatigue, conflict, overload, isolation — gives you concrete levers to act early. Talking about it with a trusted person or a professional, even without urgency, can help clarify what is at play and avoid a worsening through accumulation.
How your dimensions interact
Several dimensions show simultaneously high scores (Need for Approval, Self-Erasure). These dimensions do not operate in isolation: they can reinforce one another, each sustaining the others in a loop that makes the overall picture heavier than the sum of its parts. The good news about this mechanism is that it also works in reverse: targeted work on one of them, often the most accessible or the most pervasive, can have positive cascading effects on the others. It is precisely this kind of link that a professional can help untangle, to choose where to start rather than facing everything at once.
Your action plan
Right now
- →Need for Approval — Work on your self-esteem independently of others' views.
- →Need for Approval — Practice activities that strengthen your inner confidence.
- →Self-Erasure — Working on assertiveness is essential.
- →Self-Erasure — Reconnect with your own desires and preferences.
In the coming weeks
- →Fear of Abandonment — Identify the situations that trigger your fear of abandonment.
- →Difficulty with Solitude — Maintain this balance between solitude and socialization.
In the long run
- →Retake this test in 3 to 6 months to measure your evolution. Significant changes on elevated dimensions are often visible at this time scale.
- →If you start therapeutic work, identify together 1 or 2 priority dimensions rather than addressing everything at once — targeted work is more effective than global work.
- →Build a lasting support network: health professional (psychologist, psychiatrist, primary care doctor), close ones, possibly support groups. Solidity comes from number and complementarity.
- →Take care of physiological foundations (sleep, nutrition, physical activity): they do not cure but they strongly condition psychological availability for therapeutic work.
Resources & exercise
7-day observation journal
Each day, spot one situation where “Need for Approval” showed up. Note the automatic thought, the emotion (0–100) and what you did. Then write one more balanced, alternative reading. After 7 days, re-read your notes: the recurring patterns become visible — the first step to change them.
Support resources
If you are struggling, you are not alone. United States: call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, 24/7). Elsewhere: find your local line at findahelpline.com. This report supports self-knowledge and does not replace a consultation with a psychologist or doctor.
Your answers in detail
1. I have an intense fear of being abandoned by the people I love.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
You answered "Somewhat disagree". Can you tell me more about when this comes up for you?
It mainly shows up in situations that matter to me, when I feel under pressure or emotionally involved.
2. I am able to leave a relationship that doesn't make me happy.
Answer : Somewhat agree
And how long have you noticed this?
It has been more present over the past few months, though I recognise it from before too.
3. When my partner is distant, I panic and fear the worst.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
4. I do everything to avoid a breakup, even if it means sacrificing my values.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
5. I feel secure in my relationship without needing to check on it constantly.
Answer : Somewhat agree
6. The end of a relationship feels like the worst thing that could happen to me.
Answer : Somewhat disagree
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