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Am I Too Demanding as a Parent? — Self-Test
69 questions·10 min·5 dimensions and a separate readiness-to-change module·up to 14 clinical frameworks·5 report sections
Reviewed by Gildas Garrec, CBT practitioner
Good morning,
This test looks at how much you expect, how you react when results fall short, what your child seems to feel about it, and the room left for them to love something other than what you hope for them. The report looks at each of these aspects, and in particular at the gap between the last two.
What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.
How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report
The test runs over 69 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
We'd also suggest reading the book Adolescence in Crisis, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.
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Am I Too Demanding as a Parent? — Self-Test — a 69-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test looks at how high your expectations run, how you react to results, and the pressure your child feels from them. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): an interpretation of its 5 dimensions, a radar chart, up to 14 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This test covers expectations, comparison, reactions to results, the pressure your child feels, trust, free time, your child's interests and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Expectations If you tell your child which average or class ranking you expect from them this year. If, when you look at a graded paper, you first comment on how far your child has come, before the grade. Comparison If, looking at another child's report card, you think yours could do just as well. If accepting that your child moves forward at a different pace from the one you expected is hard for you. Reactions to results If, when your child brings home a bad grade, your disappointment shows on your face. If, when your child comes home with a bad grade, you first ask how they felt about it. The pressure your child feels If, when you talk about their results, your child cries, gets agitated or shuts down. If your child laughs as they tell you about something silly from their day. Trust If your child watches your reaction before confiding one of their fears. If your child tells you when they don't feel like doing an activity, and knows it can be discussed. Free time If you find it hard to let your child spend a free afternoon with nothing planned. If you see the moments when your child plays or rests as wasted time. Your child's interests If you can name what your child is into right now: their game, their band, their show. If you tell other people what your child loves, not only what they do well. Readiness to change If what you have just described weighs on your life as a parent. If you want to take action to better support your child in this area.
About this test
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Dimensions assessed
- ●Your view of these high expectations- How you explain these high expectations of your child, before the test tells you anything. This section does not measure any difficulty or produce a level: it simply records your initial view.
- ●Level of expectations- What your expectations are, and where they come from. The report distinguishes here what you want for your child from what you would have wanted for yourself: the two often overlap.
- ●Reactions to results- What happens inside you when a result comes in, in the moment and over the following days. The report reads these two moments separately, because they do not say the same thing.
- ●Pressure experienced by the child- What actually reaches your child of your expectations. The only dimension of the test that is about your child, it is set against the previous ones: what is intended and what is received often differ.
- ●Space to be themselves- What your child keeps for themselves, away from any question of results. The report treats this space as a counterweight in its own right, not simply as a matter of free time.
- ●Readiness to change- Your readiness to rethink the way your expectations come across. It is considered separately and determines what the report will suggest you adjust first.
Reference frameworks and authors
This questionnaire was designed to help you take stock. It does not reproduce a published validated scale and is not a clinical assessment: its results are a starting point for reflection, to discuss with a professional if needed.
Why take this test?
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This test looks at how much you expect, how you react when results fall short, what your child seems to feel about it, and the room left for them to love something other than what you hope for them. The report looks at each of these aspects, and in particular at the gap between the last two.
The questionnaire explores 5 areas: Your view of these high expectations, Level of expectations, Reactions to results, Pressure experienced by the child, Space to be themselves. Your answers support reflection, not a diagnosis. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
Dimensions explored
These are the aspects explored by this questionnaire. Your answers help put them into perspective.
Your view of these high expectations
How you explain these high expectations of your child, before the test tells you anything. This section does not measure any difficulty or produce a level: it simply records your initial view.
Level of expectations
What your expectations are, and where they come from. The report distinguishes here what you want for your child from what you would have wanted for yourself: the two often overlap.
Reactions to results
What happens inside you when a result comes in, in the moment and over the following days. The report reads these two moments separately, because they do not say the same thing.
Pressure experienced by the child
What actually reaches your child of your expectations. The only dimension of the test that is about your child, it is set against the previous ones: what is intended and what is received often differ.
Space to be themselves
What your child keeps for themselves, away from any question of results. The report treats this space as a counterweight in its own right, not simply as a matter of free time.
Readiness to change
Your readiness to rethink the way your expectations come across. It is considered separately and determines what the report will suggest you adjust first.
How does it work?
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Take the test
Answer the 69 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
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Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
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Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does this test measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Your view of these high expectations, Level of expectations, Reactions to results, Pressure experienced by the child, Space to be themselves. The report distinguishes the areas explored and their limits of interpretation. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
How long does this test take?
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The test contains 69 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This questionnaire draws on 5 dimensions from recognized psychological frameworks (Your view of these high expectations, Level of expectations, Reactions to results…). It's a self-assessment tool for reflection, not a clinical diagnostic instrument: it has not undergone formal psychometric validation (sample, reliability coefficient) and does not replace a professional assessment.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your report includes an analysis by dimension, explanations and personalised points for reflection and a separate readiness-to-change module. Scores are interpreted according to the purpose and limitations of this questionnaire.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is this test for?
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Check the introduction for who should answer: an adult, child or teenager. Do not answer on someone else’s behalf if the questionnaire asks for their own perspective.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake this test as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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The report organises your answers and offers points for reflection. You can discuss it with a professional; it does not replace their assessment or prescribe treatment.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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