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Relationship Red Flags: How Many Does Mine Show?
64 questions·10 min·5 dimensions·up to 14 clinical frameworks·5 report sections
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This test looks at your partner's behavior, not at your own. It helps to name four aspects of what you observe: the respect for your limits and your refusals, the way exchanges unfold, the movements of control or of isolation, and the gap between promises and actions. The report describes each of these aspects.
What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.
How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report
The test runs over 64 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
We'd also suggest reading the book The Practical CBT Guide, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.
If you have a question about your report, write to us at contact@psychologieetserenite.com: a psychotherapist will reply within 48 hours.
I'd also suggest analysing your conversation with ScanMyLove; it's a complementary tool that, from your exchanges as partners, sheds light on your relationship dynamics.
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Relationship Red Flags: How Many Does Mine Show? — a 64-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test looks at your partner's behavior, not your own: respect for your limits, how exchanges unfold, control or isolation, promises against actions. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): your score on each of its 5 dimensions, a radar chart, up to 14 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This test looks at your partner's behavior, not at your own. It names what you are already observing, area by area: whether your limits are respected, whether communication is healthy or toxic, whether control or isolation behaviors are present, and whether promises and apologies are followed by real and lasting change. The observer register is used throughout: you describe what you observe. It is an early-detection list, distinct from the assessment of a relationship already identified as destructive. Answer on what you observe, not on what you would like to observe.
About this test
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Dimensions assessed
- ●Respect for limits- Whether your physical, emotional and personal limits are respected — or regularly crossed.
- ●Toxic communication- Contempt, humiliation, gaslighting, blame, shouting — patterns that damage rather than connect.
- ●Control and isolation- Surveillance, jealousy, restrictions on freedom, isolation from loved ones — patterns that narrow your world.
- ●Consistency: words and actions- Whether promises and apologies are followed by real, lasting change — or by the same patterns.
- ●Readiness to Change- Measures your current readiness to acknowledge the situation and take steps.
Reference frameworks and authors
This test is an early-warning awareness tool built around the four most documented categories of relationship red flags: violation of limits, toxic communication, control and isolation, and cycle of promises without change. It is not a validated psychometric instrument and does not constitute a clinical assessment of domestic violence or psychological abuse. If you are concerned about your safety, please contact a specialized service.
Why take this test?
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Personal development relies on deep self-knowledge: your values, emotional intelligence, resilience, and self-confidence. Assessing these dimensions gives you a clear roadmap for growth and achieving your life goals.
The Relationship Red Flags: How Many Does Mine Show? specifically evaluates 5 key dimensions: Respect for limits, Toxic communication, Control and isolation, Consistency: words and actions, Readiness to Change. With 64 carefully crafted questions, it provides a detailed and nuanced picture of your psychological profile in this area. The test takes approximately 10 min and can be completed at your own pace, from any device.
Whether you’re seeking personal development, considering therapy, or simply curious about yourself, this test gives you concrete and actionable results to move forward with confidence.
Daily-life situations this test explores
To help you picture what to expect before you start, here are the concrete contexts the Relationship Red Flags: How Many Does Mine Show? sheds light on. This is not the list of questions (you discover them when you start the test) — it is the life situations it assesses.
In your life choices
How you make important decisions: listening to your values or following others’ expectations, projecting far or staying in survival mode.
Facing failure or setback
Your ability to bounce back: inner narratives, resources you mobilize, time to recover, lessons you draw from it.
In social relationships
Ease in connecting, setting limits, receiving a compliment, refusing a request without guilt.
In self-knowledge
Clarity on your needs, emotions, strengths and shadow areas; ability to observe yourself without judgment.
How does it work?
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Take the test
Answer the 64 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
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Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
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Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does the Relationship Red Flags: How Many Does Mine Show? measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Respect for limits, Toxic communication, Control and isolation, Consistency: words and actions, Readiness to Change. Each dimension is scored individually, giving you a detailed view of your profile rather than a single overall number.
How long does the Relationship Red Flags: How Many Does Mine Show? take?
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The test contains 64 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This test is based on established models in clinical psychology and psychometrics. It evaluates 5 dimensions (Respect for limits, Toxic communication, Control and isolation...) using validated assessment scales.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your Relationship Red Flags: How Many Does Mine Show? report includes: your overall score with detailed interpretation, individual analysis of each of the 5 dimensions, a radar chart visualizing your profile, personalized recommendations for improvement, practical exercises, and additional resources.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is the Relationship Red Flags: How Many Does Mine Show? for?
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This test is designed for any adult wishing to better understand their functioning in this area, whether out of curiosity, as part of a self-knowledge journey or to prepare a conversation with a professional.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake the Relationship Red Flags: How Many Does Mine Show? as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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Your report offers a clinical reading of your profile with concrete recommendations. You can use it as material for personal reflection, to open a conversation with someone close to you, or take it to a professional (psychologist, therapist, doctor) to enrich the consultation with a structured view of your dimensions.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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