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How Do We Handle Our Arguments?
66 questions·10 min·5 dimensions·up to 14 clinical frameworks·5 report sections
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This test looks at the mechanics of conflict in a couple rather than at counting it. It examines four aspects: the way disagreement is approached, what raises or lowers the tension, what makes it possible to reconnect, and the trace these episodes leave. The report describes each of these aspects.
What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.
How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report
The test runs over 66 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
We'd also suggest reading the book The Practical CBT Guide, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.
If you have a question about your report, write to us at contact@psychologieetserenite.com: a psychotherapist will reply within 48 hours.
I'd also suggest analysing your conversation with ScanMyLove; it's a complementary tool that, from your exchanges as partners, sheds light on your relationship dynamics.
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How Do We Handle Our Arguments? — a 66-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test looks at the mechanics of conflict in the couple: how disagreement is approached, escalation, repair and the trace it leaves. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): your score on each of its 5 dimensions, a radar chart, up to 14 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This test looks at the mechanics of conflict in a couple. It explores the experience of arguments in a relationship, the personal style at work and the patterns that repeat, rather than the severity of the conflicts. It draws on Gottman's work on couple conflict.
About this test
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Dimensions assessed
- ●Conflict style- Your personal way of approaching moments of disagreement — without judgment on the chosen style.
- ●Escalation & de-escalation- How much arguments intensify or, conversely, stay regulated, from your own perspective.
- ●Repair- The ability to repair and restore connection after a conflict — what Gottman identifies as one of the most protective dynamics in a couple.
- ●Frequency & impact- The perceived frequency of arguments and their impact on your well-being and the relationship — without alarm, just your experience.
- ●Readiness to Change- Your current relationship with the idea of evolving this dynamic in your couple.
Reference frameworks and authors
- The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work — Gottman & Silver 1999 (Gottman, J. & Silver, N., 1999)
based on — conflict patterns (escalation, repair, style) as indicators of couple dynamics
Why take this test?
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Personal development relies on deep self-knowledge: your values, emotional intelligence, resilience, and self-confidence. Assessing these dimensions gives you a clear roadmap for growth and achieving your life goals.
The How Do We Handle Our Arguments? specifically evaluates 5 key dimensions: Conflict style, Escalation & de-escalation, Repair, Frequency & impact, Readiness to Change. With 66 carefully crafted questions, it provides a detailed and nuanced picture of your psychological profile in this area. The test takes approximately 10 min and can be completed at your own pace, from any device.
Whether you’re seeking personal development, considering therapy, or simply curious about yourself, this test gives you concrete and actionable results to move forward with confidence.
Daily-life situations this test explores
To help you picture what to expect before you start, here are the concrete contexts the How Do We Handle Our Arguments? sheds light on. This is not the list of questions (you discover them when you start the test) — it is the life situations it assesses.
In your life choices
How you make important decisions: listening to your values or following others’ expectations, projecting far or staying in survival mode.
Facing failure or setback
Your ability to bounce back: inner narratives, resources you mobilize, time to recover, lessons you draw from it.
In social relationships
Ease in connecting, setting limits, receiving a compliment, refusing a request without guilt.
In self-knowledge
Clarity on your needs, emotions, strengths and shadow areas; ability to observe yourself without judgment.
How does it work?
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Take the test
Answer the 66 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
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Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
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Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does the How Do We Handle Our Arguments? measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Conflict style, Escalation & de-escalation, Repair, Frequency & impact, Readiness to Change. Each dimension is scored individually, giving you a detailed view of your profile rather than a single overall number.
How long does the How Do We Handle Our Arguments? take?
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The test contains 66 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This test is based on established models in clinical psychology and psychometrics. It evaluates 5 dimensions (Conflict style, Escalation & de-escalation, Repair...) using validated assessment scales.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your How Do We Handle Our Arguments? report includes: your overall score with detailed interpretation, individual analysis of each of the 5 dimensions, a radar chart visualizing your profile, personalized recommendations for improvement, practical exercises, and additional resources.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is the How Do We Handle Our Arguments? for?
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This test is designed for any adult wishing to better understand their functioning in this area, whether out of curiosity, as part of a self-knowledge journey or to prepare a conversation with a professional.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake the How Do We Handle Our Arguments? as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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Your report offers a clinical reading of your profile with concrete recommendations. You can use it as material for personal reflection, to open a conversation with someone close to you, or take it to a professional (psychologist, therapist, doctor) to enrich the consultation with a structured view of your dimensions.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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