Am I Afraid of Commitment? — Relationship Test

This interactive test covers commitments, the future, plans, procrastination, avoidance, attachment, anxiety, rumination, blowing hot and cold, conflict, separation, loneliness, autonomy, identity and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Commitments If signing a joint lease or setting a wedding date ties your stomach in knots. If you say "this is serious" to someone without feeling panic. The future If you find it hard to picture yourself still with the same person in the distant future. If you can easily picture yourself growing old alongside your current partner. Plans If you keep putting off, month after month, the apartment viewing or the trip for two. If you make holiday or moving plans with the people you love. Procrastination If you find a reason not to take the next step in your relationship. If moving in together or having a child feel natural and desirable to you. Avoidance If you avoid conversations about the future: moving in, a child, getting married. If you can be in a settled relationship without experiencing it as a constraint. Attachment If you want someone close, then, as soon as the future comes up, you back away. If you receive someone's love without wanting to pull away from it. Anxiety If, on the same day, you want to be loved and fear being loved too much. If you commit fully to a relationship without feeling any resistance. Rumination If you spend hours analyzing your relationship to work out whether this is "the one". If your feelings for your partner stay clear over time, without my feeling torn. Blowing hot and cold If your bursts of warmth followed by spells of coldness bewilder your partner. If you experience your relationships without much ambivalence, knowing what you want. Conflict If you start an argument over a detail to put some distance between you. If you let a relationship move forward at its own pace, without hitting the brakes. Separation If you have left someone, not because things were going badly, but because they were getting serious. If you stay in a relationship that is becoming important without looking for the exit. Loneliness If loneliness weighs on you more in a relationship than when you were single. If, when you love someone, you stay, even during a period when everything is going wrong. Autonomy If having to say where you are going and what time you will be back is unbearable to you. If you can be in a relationship without feeling you are losing your freedom. Identity If committing makes you feel you are losing your evenings and a part of yourself. If you commit without fearing you will disappear as a person in your own right. Readiness to change If what you have just described weighs on your love life. If you want to change the way you function day to day.