Parentification Test: did you take on the parent role as a child?

This test covers responsibility, support, listening, hypervigilance, parenting, money, pleasure, identity, comparison, independence, control, boundaries, guilt, the relationship and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Responsibility If you felt responsible for your parents' happiness or unhappiness. If, when one of your parents was struggling, you did not feel responsible for it. Support If, as a child, you often had to comfort one of your parents when they were sad or angry. If you could lean on your parents more than they leaned on you. Listening If one of your parents confided in you as if you were a friend or confidant. If you could talk to your parents about your own problems without fearing you would burden them. Hypervigilance If you were careful not to add worries to an already fragile parent. If you did not need to watch the adults' moods to feel at ease. Parenting If you had to take care of your brothers and sisters as if you were their parent. If cooking, cleaning and shopping were handled by the adults, not by you. Money If you managed financial or administrative responsibilities at a young age. If you handled problems (paperwork, finances) too heavy for your age. Pleasure If you were praised for being sensible rather than allowed to be a child. If playing and having fun went without saying, and you never had to justify it. Identity If you built yourself as a little adult rather than a child. If you feel you lived your childhood all the way through. Comparison If you felt different from other children, more serious and more responsible. If you felt as carefree as the children your age. Independence If you learned early to do without help and rely on yourself alone. If today, you ask for help without difficulty when you need it. Control If control reassures you: you find it hard to let go. If you relax completely when you are on vacation. Boundaries If you feel responsible for others' well-being, sometimes to excess. If you take time for yourself without feeling guilty. Guilt If you feel guilty thinking about yourself or resting. If you are glad to let someone take care of you. The relationship If you attract relationships where you give a lot and receive little. If you often find yourself in relationships where you play the role of rescuer or supporter. Readiness to change If having been parentified has a real impact on your adult life. If you believe you are capable of growing in this area.