Relationship Patterns Test: Why Do I Repeat the Same Relationships?

You feel as though you always end up with the same type of partner, replaying the same scenarios — jealousy, abandonment, domination, fusion — without understanding why your relationships always end the same way. This test explores four dimensions of relational repetition. Recurring partner choice measures your tendency to be drawn to the same type of profile, often emotionally unavailable or problematic. Early roots assess the extent to which you replay in love the dynamics learned in your family history. The fixed role reveals your tendency to systematically occupy the same position — rescuer, submissive, giver, controller. The unconscious cycle identifies the automatic nature of these repetitions, despite your clear-sightedness or the damage accumulated. Each dimension receives a detailed score with analysis and personalised recommendations. The results are not intended to make you feel guilty: they make visible what is being replayed, the first condition for being able to transform it.

In the article that follows, I address communication within a couple. If you recognise yourself in this theme, I have designed a couple communication test that lets you take stock of your communication patterns as a couple. It comes with a guide to extend the reflection beyond the results.

What the test measures

• Tendency to be drawn to the same type of profile, often emotionally unavailable or problematic
• Feeling of replaying in love familiar dynamics that come from your personal history
• Tendency to always occupy the same role (rescuer, submissive, giver, controller…)
• Automatic and repeated nature of the cycle, despite clear-sightedness or damage
• Measures your current readiness to acknowledge the impact of this issue on your life and to begin a process of change.

How to interpret your score

The result reads as an intensity, not as a diagnosis:

• Low: Your answers suggest that your relationships are not governed by a significant repetition pattern. You appear to choose and experience your bonds with relative freedom, without being strongly determined by automatic responses stemming from your history. In clinical psychology, this capacity reflects sufficient mentalisation, fairly stable self-esteem and an attachment secure enough not to need to compulsively reproduce familiar configurations. This does not mean an absence of personal history, but rather that it does not weigh in a distorting way on your current relational perceptions and choices.
• Moderate: Your answers suggest some repetitive tendencies in your relational life, without their yet constituting a rigid pattern that generates significant suffering. In clinical psychology, this stage represents a zone of productive vigilance: automatic responses are beginning to take shape, but awareness and flexibility remain sufficient to change their course. Recognised approaches such as CBT emphasise that bringing these tendencies to light early — before they consolidate — is the most effective lever for preserving relational freedom and preventing a more constraining pattern from taking hold.
• High: Your answers suggest a clearly identifiable relational repetition pattern, one that weighs on your love life and probably generates recurring suffering. In clinical psychology, this level indicates that automatic mechanisms — choosing similar profiles, fixed roles, emotional reactivations rooted in your history — are operating strongly enough to limit relational freedom. Awareness of the pattern, though valuable, is generally not sufficient at this stage to change its course: structured work grounded in recognised approaches such as schema-focused CBT becomes a significant lever for initiating lasting change.
• Very high: Your answers suggest a very pronounced relational repetition pattern, associated with recurring suffering and a likely sense of powerlessness in the face of dynamics that reproduce themselves despite you. In clinical psychology, this level indicates that deep mechanisms — rigid cognitive schemas, significant emotional reactivations, behavioural automatisms — operate largely outside conscious control. Recognised approaches such as schema therapy and certain advanced forms of CBT have demonstrated their specific effectiveness for this type of compulsive repetition. Structured professional support represents, at this stage, clinically relevant and strongly recommended help.

What your full report contains

Beyond the 5 free questions, the detailed PDF report (from €2.99) includes:

• Introduction: This report presents the results of your assessment of relational repetition patterns, across four dimensions: recurring partner choice, early roots, fixed role and unconscious cycle.
• Overall Score: Your overall score is {globalScore}%, which corresponds to a {globalLevel} level.
• Analysis by Dimension: Here is the breakdown of your scores by dimension, to make visible what is being replayed in your relationships.
• Recommendations: Based on your results, here are avenues for stepping out of repetition and choosing your relationships more freely.
• Resources: To go further, a psychologist can help you explore these patterns. Schema therapy and CBT are particularly indicated.

The first 5 questions are free; the complete, personalised report (your precise score, your profile by dimension, your recommendations) is paid.

When to take this test

• You recognise yourself in schema, repetition, relationships and want to see things clearly.
• You want a structured reading rather than a vague impression.
• You are looking for an objective starting point before talking to a professional if needed.

FAQ

How long does the test take? 64 questions, about 15 min. The first 5 are free. Does the test provide a diagnosis? No. It measures an intensity and provides reference points; only a professional can make a diagnosis. Are my answers confidential? Yes: the test is 100% anonymous and the report is delivered directly to you.

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