Fear of Abandonment test: what it measures and how to interpret your score

Fear of abandonment is one of the most widespread and impactful emotional wounds in relationships. This 30-question test explores four dimensions: separation anxiety, need for reassurance, hypersensitivity to rejection, and avoidance strategies. The results will offer you a deep understanding of your reactions to the threat of relational loss. Discover how this fear developed and what strategies to adopt to overcome it and experience more serene relationships.

In the article that follows, I explore the fear of abandonment. If you recognise yourself in this theme, I designed a fear of abandonment test that helps you take stock of the intensity of your abandonment anxiety. It comes with a guide to extend your reflection beyond the results.

What the test measures

• Distress experienced during physical or emotional separation from attachment figures.
• Frequent need to be reassured about the strength of the bond and the other person's feelings.
• Extreme sensitivity to real or perceived signs of rejection, criticism, or disinterest.
• Behaviors adopted to avoid the potential pain of abandonment (sabotage, withdrawal, excessive dependency).

How to interpret your score

Your result reads as an intensity, not a diagnosis:

• Low fear of abandonment : Fear of abandonment is not a dominant theme in your relational life. You generally feel secure in your bonds.
• Moderate fear of abandonment : Fear of abandonment is present but managed. Certain specific situations can reawaken it.
• High fear of abandonment : Fear of abandonment significantly impacts your relationships and well-being. It influences your relational choices and behaviors.
• Very high fear of abandonment : Fear of abandonment dominates your relational life and generates intense suffering. It requires in-depth therapeutic work.

What your full report includes

Beyond the 5 questions, the detailed PDF report (from €2.99) includes:

• Introduction : This report analyzes your fear of abandonment across four dimensions. The results will help you understand the deep mechanisms that influence your relationships and find paths toward healing.
• Global Score : Your global score reflects the intensity of your fear of abandonment. The higher the score, the more this fear influences your behaviors and relational choices.
• Dimension Analysis : Each dimension explores a specific aspect of the fear of abandonment. The detailed analysis helps you identify the most active and impactful mechanisms in your life.
• Recommendations : The following recommendations are personalized to help you tame your fear of abandonment and build more serene relationships.
• Resources : Recommended reading: 'The Five Wounds That Prevent Us from Being Ourselves' by Lise Bourbeau, 'Reinventing Your Life' by Jeffrey Young. Schema therapy is particularly effective for fear of abandonment.

The full personalised report (your precise score, your profile per dimension, your recommendations) is paid.

When to take this test

Take the test: Emotional Dependency → — Fear of abandonment often fuels an anxious need for reassurance; this companion test explores how much your emotional balance rests on the presence of the other.

• You recognise yourself in abandonment, fear, attachment and want to see more clearly.
• You want a structured reading rather than a vague impression.
• You are looking for an objective starting point before talking to a professional if needed.

Take the Psy Test → — 60 questions, anonymous, PDF report (€2.99). 🔗 Analyze your conversations with ScanMyLove — get an objective, structured read of your relationship's communication patterns.

FAQ

How long does the test take? 60 questions, about 15 min. The first 5 are free. Does the test provide a diagnosis? No. It measures an intensity and gives you reference points; only a professional can make a diagnosis. Are my answers confidential? Yes: the test is 100% anonymous and the report is delivered directly to you.

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