Complete Relationships & Attachment Test: what your score means

This mega test is the most in-depth relationship assessment in the catalogue. Through 10 dimensions — attachment security, communication, conflict management, emotional intimacy, trust, emotional autonomy, boundaries, clear-sightedness in the face of manipulation, commitment and balance — it draws a precise picture of your way of loving and of being connected. Rather than limiting itself to one aspect, it brings together all the levers of a healthy relationship to identify your strengths, your vulnerabilities and the concrete levers for progress. The further you go through this assessment, the better you understand what your answers reveal about your way of being in relationships — and what you can draw on to move forward.

In the article that follows, I look at communication within a couple. If this theme resonates with you, I have designed a couple communication test that lets you take stock of your communication patterns as a couple. It comes with a guide to carry the reflection beyond the results. I also wrote two books on this subject, Saving Your Relationship: Communication, Crises, and Renewal and Understanding Your Attachment Style, if you would like to go further. Worth knowing: I also offer ScanMyLove, a tool that analyses couple conversations from a simple export, to better understand a relationship's dynamic.

What the test measures

• The ability to feel safe in the bond, to trust and to tolerate both closeness and distance without fear of abandonment.
• The ability to express your needs clearly, to listen actively and to say what is wrong without attacking or staying silent.
• The ability to handle disagreements without escalation or destructive avoidance, and to repair the bond after an argument.
• The ability to show vulnerability, to share your inner world and to feel understood and connected to the other person.
• The ability to trust, to respect the other person's privacy and to regulate jealousy without control or surveillance.
• The ability to exist fully outside the relationship, to comfort yourself and not to make your worth depend on the other person.
• The ability to set boundaries, to say no without guilt and to defend your needs while respecting those of the other person.
• The ability to spot emotional blackmail, guilt-tripping and coercive control, and to trust your own perceptions without being confused.
• The ability to invest over the long term, to picture a shared future and to weather difficulties without fleeing at the first obstacle.
• The ability to build an equitable relationship in which you can rely on each other while keeping your individuality.
• Measures your current readiness to acknowledge the impact of this subject on your life and to engage in a process of change.

How to interpret your score

The result reads as an intensity, not as a diagnosis:

• Fragile relational functioning: Your answers suggest ({pct}%) relational functioning that is weakened overall: several fundamental dimensions — attachment security, quality of communication, respect for boundaries, balanced interdependence — appear to be in difficulty simultaneously. This type of profile, documented in reference clinical models such as DSM-5 and ICD-11, may be explained by insecure early attachment patterns, unfavourable relational learning or particularly demanding current life circumstances. These difficulties do not define who you are, but they signal areas of vulnerability that deserve kind and structured exploration, preferably with support.
• Relational functioning to consolidate: Your answers suggest ({pct}%) average relational functioning: you have real resources — communication skills, moments of security, awareness of your needs — but certain dimensions pull the whole down and create recurring vulnerabilities. This intermediate profile is common and points to significant potential for progress: the foundations are laid, but targeted adjustments in the fragile areas would appreciably improve the quality and stability of your relationships. Recognised approaches such as couples CBT or attachment-focused therapies offer precise tools for this kind of work.
• Healthy relational functioning: Your answers suggest ({pct}%) relational functioning that is healthy overall: the main pillars of a fulfilling relationship — attachment security, authentic communication, respect for boundaries, balanced interdependence — appear present and relatively well articulated. This profile reflects solid relational resources, most likely built through positive experiences or personal work. Some room for progress nonetheless remains, probably concentrated on one or two specific dimensions, and consolidating them would strengthen the stability of your relationships during periods of stress or transition.
• Fulfilling relational functioning: Your answers suggest ({pct}%) particularly fulfilling relational functioning: attachment security, authentic communication, respectful handling of boundaries and balanced interdependence appear solidly articulated. This profile corresponds to the indicators of a secure and mutually enriching relationship, as defined in the negative by reference criteria such as DSM-5 and ICD-11 — that is, by the absence of the characteristic dysfunctions. Your relational patterns appear stable, flexible and conducive to growth for each partner. This solidity is a valuable resource, but it does not remove the need for continued vigilance, particularly during life transitions or periods of high stress.

What your full report contains

Beyond the 5 free questions, the detailed PDF report (from €2.90) includes:

• Introduction: This assessment analyses your relational functioning through 10 complementary dimensions. The further you go through this assessment, the better you understand what your answers reveal about your way of being in relationships — and what you can draw on to move forward. The results highlight your strengths and your concrete levers for progress.
• Dimension-by-dimension analysis: Here is the detail of each of the 10 dimensions. Identify your points of support (high scores) and your priority areas (low scores): it is on the latter that progress will be fastest.
• Overall score: Your overall score summarises all of your relational dimensions. It places your current functioning and gives the general direction.
• Personalised recommendations: Based on your profile, here are the most useful actions to take. Focus on one dimension at a time to anchor change lastingly.
• Resources: To go further: readings on attachment and nonviolent communication, assertiveness exercises, and support from a psychologist in the case of persistent painful patterns.

The first 5 questions are free; the full personalised report (your precise score, your dimension-by-dimension profile, your recommendations) is paid.

When to take this test

• You recognise yourself in relationships, attachment, couple life and want to see things clearly.
• You want a structured reading rather than a vague impression.
• You are looking for an objective starting point before talking to a professional if needed.

FAQ

How long does the test take? 154 questions, around 30 min. The first 5 are free. Does the test make a diagnosis? No. It measures an intensity and provides reference points; only a professional can make a diagnosis. Are my answers confidential? Yes: the test is 100% anonymous and the report is delivered directly to you.

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