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Built to Last: Is Your Relationship Made for the Future?
63 questions·10 min·5 dimensions and a separate readiness-to-change module·up to 14 clinical frameworks·5 report sections
Reviewed by Gildas Garrec, CBT practitioner
Good morning,
This test is taken as a pair: each of you fills in the questionnaire alone, with no access to what your partner answers. Four aspects are gathered: how a disagreement ends, what the couple does with hard knocks, how deep the commitment feels, and the satisfaction actually experienced day to day. The report compares the two profiles and shows where one of you takes as settled what the other does not experience the same way.
What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.
How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report
The test runs over 63 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
We'd also suggest reading the book Saving Your Relationship, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.
If you have a question about your report, write to us at contact@psychologieetserenite.com: a psychotherapist will reply within 48 hours.
I'd also suggest analysing your conversation with ScanMyLove; it's a complementary tool that, from your exchanges as partners, sheds light on your relationship dynamics.
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Built to Last: Is Your Relationship Made for the Future? — a 63-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test is taken as a pair: each of you fills in the questionnaire alone. The report compares the two profiles and shows where they diverge. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): an interpretation of its 5 dimensions, a radar chart, up to 14 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This test is taken as a pair, each of you filling in the questionnaire alone. How long a couple lasts is poorly predicted by declarations and well predicted by precise mechanisms, the ones Gottman's research documented. Those are what the questionnaire asks about: how a disagreement starts and settles, what the couple does with the trials that cross it, how firmly each of you is committed, and the satisfaction genuinely felt. Openness to change is added to these: five dimensions in all. The report then superimposes the two readings. Where they coincide, there is bedrock. Where they part — one believes himself supported, the other feels alone — sits the point that needs putting into words.
About this test
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Dimensions assessed
- ●Your reading of your couple's staying power- The way you explain what weighs the most on your couple's ability to last, before the test tells you anything. This section does not measure any difficulty and does not produce a level: it collects a starting reading.
- ●Conflict management- Based on Gottman's Four Horsemen (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling) — measured from your own perspective.
- ●Relationship resilience- The couple's ability to weather hardships together and come out stronger rather than weaker.
- ●Mutual commitment- Depth and reciprocity of each partner's commitment to the relationship over the long term.
- ●Relationship satisfaction- Level of satisfaction and fulfillment felt day-to-day in the relationship.
- ●Readiness to Change- Measures your current readiness to evolve how you function in the relationship.
Reference frameworks and authors
- This test does not assess whether your relationship is 'good' or 'bad', but explores the indicators research associates with relationship durability — it draws on the theoretical framework of "Why Marriages Succeed or Fail" without claiming formal psychometric validation. Why Marriages Succeed or Fail (Gottman J.M., 1994)
Why take this test?
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This test is taken as a pair: each of you fills in the questionnaire alone, with no access to what your partner answers. Four aspects are gathered: how a disagreement ends, what the couple does with hard knocks, how deep the commitment feels, and the satisfaction actually experienced day to day. The report compares the two profiles and shows where one of you takes as settled what the other does not experience the same way.
The questionnaire explores 5 areas: Your reading of your couple's staying power, Conflict management, Relationship resilience, Mutual commitment, Relationship satisfaction. Your answers support reflection, not a diagnosis. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
Dimensions explored
These are the aspects explored by this questionnaire. Your answers help put them into perspective.
Your reading of your couple's staying power
The way you explain what weighs the most on your couple's ability to last, before the test tells you anything. This section does not measure any difficulty and does not produce a level: it collects a starting reading.
Conflict management
Based on Gottman's Four Horsemen (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling) — measured from your own perspective.
Relationship resilience
The couple's ability to weather hardships together and come out stronger rather than weaker.
Mutual commitment
Depth and reciprocity of each partner's commitment to the relationship over the long term.
Relationship satisfaction
Level of satisfaction and fulfillment felt day-to-day in the relationship.
Readiness to Change
Measures your current readiness to evolve how you function in the relationship.
How does it work?
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Take the test
Answer the 63 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
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Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
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Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does this test measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Your reading of your couple's staying power, Conflict management, Relationship resilience, Mutual commitment, Relationship satisfaction. The report distinguishes the areas explored and their limits of interpretation. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
How long does this test take?
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The test contains 63 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This questionnaire draws on 5 dimensions from recognized psychological frameworks (Your reading of your couple's staying power, Conflict management, Relationship resilience…). It's a self-assessment tool for reflection, not a clinical diagnostic instrument: it has not undergone formal psychometric validation (sample, reliability coefficient) and does not replace a professional assessment.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your report includes an analysis by dimension, explanations and personalised points for reflection and a separate readiness-to-change module. Scores are interpreted according to the purpose and limitations of this questionnaire.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is this test for?
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Read this test’s introduction and dimensions to check whether they match your situation. Answer from the perspective specified in the instructions.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake this test as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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The report organises your answers and offers points for reflection. You can discuss it with a professional; it does not replace their assessment or prescribe treatment.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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