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Trauma Bond Test — Am I in a Trauma Bond?
64 questions·10 min·5 dimensions·up to 21 clinical frameworks·6 report sections
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This test looks at the traumatic bond through four aspects: tension and intense reconciliation taking turns, the impossibility of staying away despite the attempts, the hook made by good moments that come without any pattern, and the gap between what you know and what you manage to do. The report lays bare the machinery that wipes out past crises.
What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.
How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report
The test runs over 64 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
We'd also suggest reading the book Trauma Bonding, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.
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Trauma Bond Test — Am I in a Trauma Bond? — a 64-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test looks at the traumatic bond through four aspects, and lays bare the machinery that wipes out past crises. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): your score on each of its 5 dimensions, a radar chart, up to 21 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This test covers attachment, separation, loneliness, longing, affection, alternation, hypervigilance, anticipation, hope, confidence, isolation, support, secrecy, plans and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Attachment If you feel unable to imagine your life without this person. If you know this relationship harms you but you can't leave. Separation If you have come back after a breakup attempt. If you have considered breaking up several times without taking action. Loneliness If the idea of finding yourself alone feels more frightening than continuing to suffer in this relationship. If you tell yourself that no one else could understand you or love you like this person does. Longing If, when you distance yourself, the longing is physical and unbearable. If you live for the moments when they become affectionate again. Affection If a simple mark of affection after a difficult period makes you euphoric. If the affection you receive is regular and predictable; you don't have to earn it every time. Alternation If you never know in advance whether you'll receive tenderness or indifference. If your calm moments are stable and last over time, without tension creeping back. Hypervigilance If, when things have been going well for a few days, you can't help watching for the sign it's about to sour. If you spend a lot of time analyzing their moods to anticipate. Anticipation If you live in fear of the next crisis. If you've learned not to enjoy the good moments too much, because you know a crisis may follow. Hope If calm periods make you hope that everything will change. If you put a lot of energy into trying to get back the ideal person they were at the start. Confidence If you have lost confidence in your own judgment. If you doubt your perceptions after their explanations. Isolation If you are gradually isolating yourself from loved ones or passions. If you keep activities and relationships of your own, independent of your partner. Support If you lack external support (friend, family, professional) to help you. If your loved ones don't understand why you stay. Secrecy If you notice that you increasingly hide the reality of your relationship from those around you. If, between what you truly feel and what you show of your relationship, there's a big gap. Plans If you have not set up a concrete plan to leave. If what you know about the situation and what you manage to act on are perfectly aligned. Readiness to change If this traumatic bond you have experienced has a real impact on your life and relationships. If you believe you are capable of rebuilding and getting better.
About this test
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Dimensions assessed
- ●Violence-reconciliation cycle- Alternation between tension/conflict phases and intense tenderness (Walker 1979 cycle).
- ●Inability to leave despite awareness- Emotional impossibility to walk away lastingly, returns after breakup attempts.
- ●Intermittent reinforcement- Behavioral dependency on unpredictable positive moments (Skinner / Dutton-Painter 1981).
- ●Awareness-action gap- Gap between intellectual knowledge (toxic relationship) and concrete ability to act.
- ●Readiness to Change- Measures your current readiness to acknowledge the impact of what you have experienced and engage in a process of reconstruction and healing.
Reference frameworks and authors
- Cycle of violence / trauma bonding theory (Walker, 1979)
- Attachment theory (Bowlby, 1969)
- based on Young Schema Questionnaire (YSQ) (Young, 1990)
Why take this test?
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Our romantic and interpersonal relationships are deeply influenced by our attachment style and relational patterns. Understanding these mechanisms helps break repetitive cycles, improve communication, and build more fulfilling connections.
The Trauma Bond Test — Am I in a Trauma Bond? specifically evaluates 5 key dimensions: Violence-reconciliation cycle, Inability to leave despite awareness, Intermittent reinforcement, Awareness-action gap, Readiness to Change. With 64 carefully crafted questions, it provides a detailed and nuanced picture of your psychological profile in this area. The test takes approximately 10 min and can be completed at your own pace, from any device.
Whether you’re seeking personal development, considering therapy, or simply curious about yourself, this test gives you concrete and actionable results to move forward with confidence.
Daily-life situations this test explores
To help you picture what to expect before you start, here are the concrete contexts the Trauma Bond Test — Am I in a Trauma Bond? sheds light on. This is not the list of questions (you discover them when you start the test) — it is the life situations it assesses.
At the start of a relationship
Your first instincts when attracted: opening up fast or holding back, idealizing or doubting, chasing or running away.
In conflict
How you handle disagreement: avoiding, exploding, shutting down, seeking immediate reconciliation, or ruminating for days.
When the other person pulls away
Your reactions to absence, silence, distance: anxiety, control, withdrawal, apparent indifference, constant need for reassurance.
In emotional intimacy
Ability to say what you feel, to receive what the other feels, to welcome vulnerability without fleeing or judging it.
How does it work?
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Take the test
Answer the 64 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
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Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
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Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does the Trauma Bond Test — Am I in a Trauma Bond? measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: Violence-reconciliation cycle, Inability to leave despite awareness, Intermittent reinforcement, Awareness-action gap, Readiness to Change. Each dimension is scored individually, giving you a detailed view of your profile rather than a single overall number.
How long does the Trauma Bond Test — Am I in a Trauma Bond? take?
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The test contains 64 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This test is based on established models in clinical psychology and psychometrics. It evaluates 5 dimensions (Violence-reconciliation cycle, Inability to leave despite awareness, Intermittent reinforcement...) using validated assessment scales.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your Trauma Bond Test — Am I in a Trauma Bond? report includes: your overall score with detailed interpretation, individual analysis of each of the 5 dimensions, a radar chart visualizing your profile, personalized recommendations for improvement, practical exercises, and additional resources.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is the Trauma Bond Test — Am I in a Trauma Bond? for?
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This test is designed for any adult wishing to better understand their functioning in this area, whether out of curiosity, as part of a self-knowledge journey or to prepare a conversation with a professional.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake the Trauma Bond Test — Am I in a Trauma Bond? as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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Your report offers a clinical reading of your profile with concrete recommendations. You can use it as material for personal reflection, to open a conversation with someone close to you, or take it to a professional (psychologist, therapist, doctor) to enrich the consultation with a structured view of your dimensions.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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