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Situationship Test: Does Your Undefined Relationship Have a Future?
63 questions·10 min·5 dimensions and a separate readiness-to-change module·up to 14 clinical frameworks·5 report sections
Reviewed by Gildas Garrec, CBT practitioner
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This test looks at relationships with an undefined status: the blur around the status, the gap between what each of you puts in, the churning over what happens next, and the distance between what you want and what the other person wants. The report separates something light that both people have chosen from a blur that is simply endured, and shows which way yours leans.
What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.
How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report
The test runs over 63 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
We'd also suggest reading the book Understanding Your Attachment Style, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.
If you have a question about your report, write to us at contact@psychologieetserenite.com: a psychotherapist will reply within 48 hours.
I'd also suggest analysing your conversation with ScanMyLove; it's a complementary tool that, from your exchanges as partners, sheds light on your relationship dynamics.
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Situationship Test: Does Your Undefined Relationship Have a Future? — a 63-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test looks at relationships with an undefined status, and at what the blur costs you. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): an interpretation of its 5 dimensions, a radar chart, up to 14 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This interactive test covers commitment, the relationship, speaking up, attachment, boundaries, anxiety, screens, rumination, mood, sleep, hope, plans, secrecy, putting things off and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Commitment If, despite the time spent together, your relationship has no name or definition yet. If you have already put words, together, to what your relationship stands for. The relationship If, when an acquaintance asks whether you are in a relationship, you don't know what to answer. If, in front of your friends, you don't know how to introduce this person. Speaking up If the question "what are we?" is on your lips, and you swallow it back. If, as soon as the subject of your status comes up, one of you changes the conversation. Attachment If, at the thought of no longer being the first to write, you fear the connection would stop dead. If suggestions to meet up come in roughly equal measure from this person and from you. Boundaries If you put your needs away in a drawer so that the connection holds. If you don't dare say what you need, for fear of ruining everything. Anxiety If a slightly long reply time is enough to knot your stomach. If, when you think about the coming months with this person, calm prevails. Screens If, in the evening, you check whether this person is online or has read your message. If you go back over their messages to guess what this person really wants. Rumination If, in the evening, you replay your last conversation in your head on a loop. If you spend your journeys wondering where this relationship is going. Mood If your mood for the day depends on the tone of their last message. If the vagueness of this situation spoils your mood as the week goes on. Sleep If, because of the uncertainty of this relationship, your sleep becomes restless. If, in bed, you run through scenarios about what this relationship will become. Hope If you hope for a change that nothing, in the facts, suggests is coming. If you have been accepting this vagueness for a long time, hoping it will change one day. Plans If you would like to talk about holidays or weekends, topics this person refuses to discuss. If, for the coming months, this person and you want the same thing. Secrecy If, in front of your friends, you act as though it suits you when it doesn't. If you keep quiet about your wish for commitment so as not to scare this person off. Putting things off If you put off until later the conversation to clarify where your relationship stands. If you stay in this relationship even though the vagueness around it doesn't suit you. Readiness to change If what you have just described weighs on your love life. If you want to change the way you function day to day.
About this test
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Dimensions assessed
- ●How you read this relationship's ambiguity- How you explain to yourself the lack of clarity in this relationship, before the test tells you anything about it. This section measures no difficulty and produces no level: it collects a starting reading.
- ●Status ambiguity- Lack of a clear definition of the relationship: neither a couple nor a simple bond, an unnamed in-between.
- ●Investment asymmetry- An imbalance in commitment, effort and initiative between the two people.
- ●Uncertainty and anxiety- Preoccupation, insecurity and rumination linked to the uncertain future of the relationship.
- ●Misaligned expectations- A gap between what you expect from the relationship and what the other person seems to be looking for.
- ●Readiness to Change- Measures your current readiness to acknowledge the impact of this topic on your life and engage in a process of growth.
Reference frameworks and authors
A recent pop-culture concept describing an undefined, ambiguous relationship — no validated clinical instrument exists for this topic to date.
Why take this test?
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This test looks at relationships with an undefined status: the blur around the status, the gap between what each of you puts in, the churning over what happens next, and the distance between what you want and what the other person wants. The report separates something light that both people have chosen from a blur that is simply endured, and shows which way yours leans.
The questionnaire explores 5 areas: How you read this relationship's ambiguity, Status ambiguity, Investment asymmetry, Uncertainty and anxiety, Misaligned expectations. Your answers support reflection, not a diagnosis. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
Dimensions explored
These are the aspects explored by this questionnaire. Your answers help put them into perspective.
How you read this relationship's ambiguity
How you explain to yourself the lack of clarity in this relationship, before the test tells you anything about it. This section measures no difficulty and produces no level: it collects a starting reading.
Status ambiguity
Lack of a clear definition of the relationship: neither a couple nor a simple bond, an unnamed in-between.
Investment asymmetry
An imbalance in commitment, effort and initiative between the two people.
Uncertainty and anxiety
Preoccupation, insecurity and rumination linked to the uncertain future of the relationship.
Misaligned expectations
A gap between what you expect from the relationship and what the other person seems to be looking for.
Readiness to Change
Measures your current readiness to acknowledge the impact of this topic on your life and engage in a process of growth.
How does it work?
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Take the test
Answer the 63 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
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Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
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Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does this test measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: How you read this relationship's ambiguity, Status ambiguity, Investment asymmetry, Uncertainty and anxiety, Misaligned expectations. The report distinguishes the areas explored and their limits of interpretation. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
How long does this test take?
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The test contains 63 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This questionnaire draws on 5 dimensions from recognized psychological frameworks (How you read this relationship's ambiguity, Status ambiguity, Investment asymmetry…). It's a self-assessment tool for reflection, not a clinical diagnostic instrument: it has not undergone formal psychometric validation (sample, reliability coefficient) and does not replace a professional assessment.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your report includes an analysis by dimension, explanations and personalised points for reflection and a separate readiness-to-change module. Scores are interpreted according to the purpose and limitations of this questionnaire.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is this test for?
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Read this test’s introduction and dimensions to check whether they match your situation. Answer from the perspective specified in the instructions.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake this test as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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The report organises your answers and offers points for reflection. You can discuss it with a professional; it does not replace their assessment or prescribe treatment.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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