Being Disrespected Test: Are You Being Belittled?

This interactive test covers belittling, recognition, boundaries, self-esteem, humiliation, listening, speaking up, shame, control, loneliness, tiredness, avoidance, guilt and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Belittling If, when you drive or cook, this person comments on the way you do it until you doubt you can do anything at all. If, when you speak at the table, people listen to you and take your ideas seriously. Recognition If the efforts you make day to day are neither noticed nor acknowledged. If, before a decision is made, you are asked for your point of view and it is taken into account. Boundaries If your "no" is not respected, even when you repeat it. If, when you set a limit, it is respected as soon as you state it. Self-esteem If, as time goes by, you doubt what you are worth. If, after a hurtful scene with this person, your self-confidence stays intact. Humiliation If you come out of certain conversations with a feeling of humiliation. If, in front of your friends, this person mocks how you dress or the music you listen to. Listening If, when you talk about your day, people look away before you have finished. If people listen to you with half an ear, with no real interest in what you are saying. Speaking up If you no longer dare to say out loud what you think. If you have to repeat yourself before anyone takes an interest in what you are going through. Shame If, after a hurtful exchange with this person, you are left with shame or anger that you swallow. If, in a room, you try to take up as little space as possible so as not to disturb anyone. Control If your holidays are decided without any regard for your opinion. If you are told about a weekend already booked, on a decision that concerns you. Loneliness If, in what you are going through, loneliness is there, even in the middle of other people. If, around the table during a shared meal, you feel that you do not count. Tiredness If you hang up or leave the room with no energy left, after certain exchanges. If, after a hurtful scene, you sleep badly or go through the day feeling flat. Avoidance If you cancel an outing that mattered to you, to avoid the tension in the evening. If, at the table, you keep quiet to avoid the remark that is coming. Guilt If, when you set a limit, this person makes you feel guilty until the next day. If, at the end of an argument, you end up thinking that the problem is you. Readiness to change If what you have just described weighs on your life and your relationships. If you want to rebuild yourself and regain your balance.