Avoiding other people

This test covers self-esteem, comparison, confidence, what others think, avoidance, speaking up, withdrawal, judgment, rejection, hypervigilance, rumination, loneliness, longing, isolation and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example Self-esteem If you see yourself as uninteresting or not very capable. If you recognize real strengths and abilities in yourself. Comparison If you compare yourself to others and almost always come out on the losing side. If you're proud of what you accomplish, even in small ways. Confidence If, before applying for a job you're drawn to, you tell yourself you're not good enough. If, on the whole, you feel up to the challenges life brings. What others think If you dread that people will find out you're worth less than you let on. If you feel entitled to take your place in a group. Avoidance If you avoid situations that involve a lot of social contact. If you take up social opportunities without overthinking them beforehand. Speaking up If, in a meeting, you rarely speak up for fear of being judged. If you feel comfortable striking up a conversation with a stranger. Withdrawal If, at a party where you know few people, you stay on the sidelines and barely talk. If you spontaneously join in group activities when the chance comes up. Judgment If you dwell on people's tone and wording, searching them for disapproval. If you can take critical feedback without experiencing it as a personal attack. Rejection If a silence or an unanswered message makes you think of rejection right away. If you open up to others without needing a guarantee that you'll be accepted. Hypervigilance If you keep watching for signs of rejection or disapproval. If you stay calm when someone close doesn't reply to you right away. Rumination If a negative comment haunts you for a long time. If you handle criticism and disagreement well. Loneliness If loneliness weighs on you, even when you're the one who brings it about. If your current relationships satisfy you and match what you want. Longing If you dream of a romantic relationship, but the fear of being rejected holds you back. If, when you feel like it, you reach out to others without fear stopping you. Isolation If your avoidance deprives you of relationships you would like to have. If you form close bonds whenever you feel like it, without holding back. Readiness to change If your avoidant functioning has a real impact on your life and relationships. If you believe you are capable of growing in this area.