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Is My Relationship Solid? The Gottman Indicators
63 questions·10 min·5 dimensions and a separate readiness-to-change module·up to 14 clinical frameworks·5 report sections
Reviewed by Gildas Garrec, CBT practitioner
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This test looks at the health of the couple relationship. It examines the supports still active — curiosity about the other, rituals, shared projects — the proportion of warm exchanges to tense ones, the admiration actually felt, and what makes it possible to reconnect after friction. The report describes each of these points.
What you receive — a report written from your answers: what stands out, what sustains it, and where to start. This week, this month, later on.
How it is built — each axis is analyzed on its own, then cross-read with the others, through clinical reading frameworks. Your detailed answers are attached as an appendix. See an example report
The test runs over 63 questions and takes about 10 min, for a price of $3.60.
We'd also suggest reading the book Saving Your Relationship, to take this reflection further. It's included in the price and downloadable.
If you have a question about your report, write to us at contact@psychologieetserenite.com: a psychotherapist will reply within 48 hours.
I'd also suggest analysing your conversation with ScanMyLove; it's a complementary tool that, from your exchanges as partners, sheds light on your relationship dynamics.
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Is My Relationship Solid? The Gottman Indicators — a 63-question self-assessment, about 10 min. This test maps your relational foundations: positive predictors, positive/negative balance, mutual admiration, and conflict repair capacity. Once finished, you receive a detailed PDF report ($3.60): an interpretation of its 5 dimensions, a radar chart, up to 14 clinical reading frameworks and a personalized action plan. It is designed to help you know yourself better.
This test covers the relationship, curiosity, affection, desire, recognition, pleasure, tension, conflict, repair, remorse, listening, dialogue, support, plans and readiness to change. What the test asks, for example The relationship If your evenings pass with each of you in front of a screen. If, looking at the whole, the good spells outweigh the rest. Curiosity If what they are thinking these days still interests you. If you could say what they long for now. Affection If your small rituals have disappeared without a sound. If affection travels through the ordinary gestures. Desire If that person still attracts you. If, when you are apart, you think of them with tenderness. Recognition If you are put on the spot in front of others. If you are thanked, regularly. Pleasure If you can still make each other laugh. If you still find occasions to enjoy yourselves. Tension If tension stacks up faster than it gets settled. If, even in tense times, you keep a kind eye on each other. Conflict If your conversations often end badly. If your arguments lead somewhere. Repair If one conflict calls up another, right behind it. If, after a conflict, you pick the thread back up. Remorse If you know how to apologize plainly when you wound. If the other can admit a fault without feeling lowered. Listening If, when you name a hurt, you are listened to. If, when you tell them something important, you are well received. Dialogue If raising a problem quickly turns into confrontation. If you can open a difficult subject without apprehension. Support If you call someone else first with good news. If, when good news reaches them, you live it with them. Plans If you have a plan pulling the two of you forward. If, on the essentials, you move at the same pace. Readiness to change If you want to change something in how you operate. If you believe you can move things.
About this test
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Dimensions assessed
- ●How you read the solidity of your relationship- How you explain what you have just described about your relationship, before the test tells you anything at all. This section measures no difficulty and produces no level: it collects a starting reading.
- ●Positive Predictors- Active presence of positive relational vitality markers: curiosity about your partner, shared rituals, common projects, spontaneous warmth.
- ●Positive/Negative Balance- Balance between positive and negative interactions in the relationship. Gottman identifies a ratio of at least 5 positive interactions per negative one as a stability marker.
- ●Admiration and Respect- Mutual appreciation, recognition of each other's qualities, respect during disagreements, and expression of affection.
- ●Conflict Repair- The couple's capacity to reconnect after friction, to apologize sincerely, and to avoid the accumulation of resentment.
- ●Readiness to Change- Measures your current readiness to become aware of the state of your relationship and to engage in a process of growth.
Reference frameworks and authors
- This test is based on the conceptual framework of the Sound Relationship House and the predictors of marital stability identified by Gottman in his longitudinal research. It is not a validated psychometric instrument and does not constitute a clinical assessment. The terms used describe an orientation at a given moment, not a prediction about the future of your relationship. Gottman JM & Silver N — The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (Gottman JM, Silver N, 1999)
Why take this test?
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This test looks at the health of the couple relationship. It examines the supports still active — curiosity about the other, rituals, shared projects — the proportion of warm exchanges to tense ones, the admiration actually felt, and what makes it possible to reconnect after friction. The report describes each of these points.
The questionnaire explores 5 areas: How you read the solidity of your relationship, Positive Predictors, Positive/Negative Balance, Admiration and Respect, Conflict Repair. Your answers support reflection, not a diagnosis. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
Dimensions explored
These are the aspects explored by this questionnaire. Your answers help put them into perspective.
How you read the solidity of your relationship
How you explain what you have just described about your relationship, before the test tells you anything at all. This section measures no difficulty and produces no level: it collects a starting reading.
Positive Predictors
Active presence of positive relational vitality markers: curiosity about your partner, shared rituals, common projects, spontaneous warmth.
Positive/Negative Balance
Balance between positive and negative interactions in the relationship. Gottman identifies a ratio of at least 5 positive interactions per negative one as a stability marker.
Admiration and Respect
Mutual appreciation, recognition of each other's qualities, respect during disagreements, and expression of affection.
Conflict Repair
The couple's capacity to reconnect after friction, to apologize sincerely, and to avoid the accumulation of resentment.
Readiness to Change
Measures your current readiness to become aware of the state of your relationship and to engage in a process of growth.
How does it work?
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Take the test
Answer the 63 questions honestly. There are no right or wrong answers — just choose the option that best describes you. The test takes about 10 min.
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Proceed to payment
Once you finish the test, pay $3.60 securely to unlock your full report. No registration required.
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Download your detailed PDF report
For a comprehensive analysis, get your PDF report (5 dimensions analyzed, radar chart, personalized recommendations, action plan). Instant download after secure payment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does this test measure?
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This test evaluates 5 psychological dimensions: How you read the solidity of your relationship, Positive Predictors, Positive/Negative Balance, Admiration and Respect, Conflict Repair. The report distinguishes the areas explored and their limits of interpretation. A separate module explores readiness to change; it is not another trait of the model presented.
How long does this test take?
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The test contains 63 questions and takes approximately 10 min to complete. You can answer at your own pace — your progress is automatically saved in your browser.
How does this test work?
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The test is anonymous and requires no registration. After completing it, you immediately see a preview of your results. The detailed PDF report, with in-depth analysis, charts and personalized recommendations, is available for $3.60.
Is this test scientifically validated?
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This questionnaire draws on 5 dimensions from recognized psychological frameworks (How you read the solidity of your relationship, Positive Predictors, Positive/Negative Balance…). It's a self-assessment tool for reflection, not a clinical diagnostic instrument: it has not undergone formal psychometric validation (sample, reliability coefficient) and does not replace a professional assessment.
What does the PDF report contain?
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Your report includes an analysis by dimension, explanations and personalised points for reflection and a separate readiness-to-change module. Scores are interpreted according to the purpose and limitations of this questionnaire.
Is my data kept confidential?
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No account creation, no email required — no sign-up needed at all. Your answers are sent to our servers while you take the test. All data is automatically deleted after 30 days — see our Privacy page for full detail.
Who is this test for?
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Read this test’s introduction and dimensions to check whether they match your situation. Answer from the perspective specified in the instructions.
Can I retake the test later?
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Yes, you can retake this test as many times as you wish. Some people take it again after several months to observe how their profile evolves. Each new attempt generates its own report — previous answers are not reused.
What should I do with my results?
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The report organises your answers and offers points for reflection. You can discuss it with a professional; it does not replace their assessment or prescribe treatment.
Can people close to me also take it?
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Yes. Each person gets their own anonymous, unique report, based on THEIR answers. Comparing profiles within a family or couple can be useful — provided each person takes the test honestly and on their own, without influencing one another during the answers.
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